Recently I received a letter from a woman who told me nothing is working in her dating life.
No one is interested in her. No one is interested in her friends either.
She and her friends are experiencing loneliness and a lack of contact with men.
They feel invisible to men.
It doesn't have to be this way. The problem is most women think finding a good guy is about having the right profile and picture at an Online Dating Site.
Your profile and picture are important, but getting a great guy starts within you and the mindset you have about both men and yourself.
How can you shift your mindset?
It's so easy to get caught in the type of rut I described above. If your friends are having trouble getting dates, instead of looking at themselves...the finger gets turned around and pointed at the men out there and their behavior.
It's not about the men we want to meet. It's about how we feel about ourselves that makes the difference.
Yes, men are attracted to your physical appearance. It's how they're wired from the caveman days of mating with women who could produce strong children that could survive the brutal elements.
What you may not know is that men are also attracted to your energy. We give off a vibe that men can feel from your profile picture, in emails the two of you exchange, on the phone and when you meet.
When it comes to dating, there are 2 types of vibrations you put out into the world.
I mentioned the first already and that is how you feel about yourself. When you feel beautiful both inside and out, men can sense this and are attracted to you. By the way, your inner glow enhances your outer magnificence and makes you even more attractive to men.
To get that inner fire glowing, you'll want to really look at what you love about you.
Let's start with your physical qualities. Sometimes it's hard for us to love our various parts and pieces as we age. In that case, you'll want to shift your mindset to one of gratitude for what the body part can do.
For example, a lot of women don't love their arms but can have gratitude for them because they use their arms to hug the people they love.
Next, rediscover your passions. Think about the things you're good at or the activities you'd love to try. I always wanted to paint so I took classes in both watercolor and acrylics. My friends would tell me my face lit up when I talked about the colors I had fun playing with. This lighting up is what men are so drawn to in you.
The second type of energy is the mindset we have when it comes to men. A lot of women think that inside those masculine bodies lives the mind of a woman.
News flash: Men think differently than women. And this can frustrate us to no end if we don't speak the language men can hear or understand.
This communication disconnect between the sexes can lead us to male bashing.
If you're talking negatively about men with your friends, I guarantee this downbeat energy shows up and pushes men away.
If you come from a mindset that men are fun and really cool in their own way, your energy field gives off this vibe instead, which draws men towards you.
Good men are interested in women our age. The secret for attracting them is two-fold.
You want to learn the language men speak and can hear.
And you want to come to a place of love and acceptance of self. It's the only way you can attract a man who will love you too.
I would love to hear your thoughts on how you are loving you.
Lisa Copeland is known as the expert on over 50's dating. She's the best-selling author of The Winning Dating Formula For Women Over 50 and her mission is to help as many women around the world as she can discover how to have fun dating and finding their Mr. Right after 50. To get your FREE Report, "5 Little Known Secrets To Find A Quality Man," visit www.findaqualityman.com.