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Are Your Goals Fake?

Setting and working towards goals is something that plays an important role in our success and development. Whether these goals are career related or family related, we create ideas around who we want to be and what we want to accomplish.
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Setting and working towards goals is something that plays an important role in our success and development. Whether these goals are career related or family related, we create ideas around who we want to be and what we want to accomplish.

Society tells us we should be ambitious, hard working, creative and always on the path to "better." The goal here isn't to remind you of the goals you have (or don't have) but rather to demonstrate that it is in fact possible to create goals and desires based on less than genuine origins. It IS possible to create goals and desires that we don't truly want to accomplish. Outside forces shape how we identify our success and our ambitions and these forces can insinuate that we should be accomplishing things we may not actually have the passion or desire to accomplish... I'll let that sink in for a second.

Confucius said, "When it is obvious that the goals cannot be reached, don't adjust the goals, adjust the action steps." What if, however, the issue actually did lie in the goal itself? What if the goal, wasn't... real?

Have you ever found yourself working towards something that really excited you in a hurry? Maybe something that your friends or family were participating in that stimulated excitement in the moment? From certifications to diets, to hairstyles or even being into certain bands or music, is it possible, that some of the goals and interests you believe to be part of your life were set because you felt it was necessary from an outside force? Is it possible that the things you want to accomplish are not true and honest reflections of your desires and dreams? I think the answer to that can be a resounding yes for many.

I've personally found myself in these situations from time to time and needless to say they left me feeling unsatisfied and empty.

It's safe to say that society, media and culture appropriate ideologies that we feel are right or trendy and this indeed has a serious impact on how we build and plan our life.

We are constantly creating ideas of what we WANT to accomplish and ideas of who we want to become -- an important piece of human growth. It is just as important, however, to seriously ask ourselves if the things we want in life are things that are deep rooted in our souls. Are these things that genuinely make us happy? Do we truly love the process? Can we envision ourselves accomplishing these things? If there is doubt in any of these things, or worse, if we feel that we are trying to accomplish in order to please another person or group of people, it's time to re-asses.

Sticking true to the things that are important to us will ensure our deepened and long-term success. Getting rid of false wishes and goals based on faulty desires will allow us to focus on being better and happier. I encourage you to look at what goals you have yet to accomplish and ask yourself if you truly want them. Do you yearn for

that moment that you can say you've achieved it? Are you ready to break molds and go after the things you know will truly make YOU happy?

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