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No More Excuses! It's Time to Step Up to Life

Our work is to go beyond the challenges that life has set up for us. It's a matter of stepping up to the plate. Because we can grow, or we can die. We can go big or go home. If we let life suck the life out of us, we've already lost.
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Recently, on Facebook, I was alerted to the following video:

It's an extraordinary account of one man's personal transformation through yoga. By the end, tears were streaming down my face, and the desire to shout from the rooftops, "YOU CAN DO IT!" was overwhelming. Thought a better forum would be right here on HuffPost.

Over the years, I've had thousands of students. Two of them have defined what Arthur Boorman also illustrates: that anything is possible. I spent a couple of years working both with a quadriplegic man and a blind woman, both of whom never let their supposed limitations hold them back. They would attend classes with able-bodied folks, doing their best every breath of the way, often inspiring others in class to step up and try things that they were doing. Excuses dwindled and inspiration ran high with examples like that present in the yoga room.

Look, if you had one shot, or one opportunity
To seize everything you ever wanted in one moment
Would you capture it or just let it slip?
-- Eminem, from the song "Lose Yourself"

It is fascinating to watch the human psyche either defeat or empower us. Over and over, yoga practice gives us the opportunity to step up or fall short. We are challenged to stick with our posture or compelled to give up. Arthur Boorman and other students who have chosen to say "Yes!" to life are testaments to the power of the human will to overcome any obstacle. There are no excuses for people like Arthur, only possibilities.

For Arthur, his handicap was visible and obvious, just like my two past students who inspired so many on the mat. For the rest of us, our handicaps can lie dormant and insidious inside our minds, and harder to bring forth into the public eye. These are the handicaps of our beliefs.

The belief that we are too fat. Too old. Too young. Too inflexible. Too hyper-mobile. Too injured. Too healthy. Too poor. Too rich. Too stupid. Too smart. Too righteous, not righteous enough... Do we need to continue? These beliefs create limits that put us in boxes, or as Morpheus from "The Matrix" would describe, "A prison for your mind." The wheelchair, cane or crutches might not be on the outside, but anytime we give up on ourselves and forget to celebrate every possibility to live life outside the lines, we are condemning ourselves to a life of limitations.

It's time to celebrate yourself, to stand up, own the moment, to choose life. Giving up on ourselves is the greatest mistake we can make in our lifetime, this brief few decades we have on this planet. Nothing gets better unless we make it better for ourself.

Our work is to go beyond the challenges that life has set up for us. We all have problems. All of us have some injury, some event, some circumstance, some curve ball to dodge. For some of us, those curve balls are flying faster at us than it is at others, but we've all got these things to deal with. It's a matter of stepping up to the plate. Because we can grow, or we can die. We can go big or go home. If we let life suck the life out of us, we've already lost.

It doesn't matter what we can't do; it matters what we believe we can accomplish. There are a multitude of stories of people triumphing over every type of hardship. These examples serve as evidence that it's possible for each of us to do the same, because every single one of us is cut from exactly the same cloth; there is no human being on this planet that is "better" or "worse" than any other. If our neighbor can rise up beyond his means, mechanism, or situation, than it is proof that we can do it, too. Arthur Booman was told he couldn't walk. So, what did he do? He ran.

Yes, we start where we are. Yes, we deal with the reality that is presented and choose to move beyond it, pressing against those prison walls of our comfort zone. Arthur didn't start with a headstand, but he fell over and over again until he got it on video and put it on YouTube for all to see as a testament to what is possible.

The difference between the possible and the impossible lies in the choices that we make: to either affirm life or deny it. That's it. Really. That's it. I know it feels like it can't be that simple. "But, look at me!" we say, "Look at this circumstance or condition, and all those people who tell me I can't." Well, instead of looking at them, how about looking to all the people who tell us that we CAN. Because those people exist. Every one of us has some person out there who believes in us more than we believe in ourselves. And, for some of us, those figures might mean the difference between life and death.

"The influence of a vital person vitalizes, there's no doubt about it. The world without spirit is a wasteland. People have the notion of saving the world by shifting things around, changing the rules, and who's on top, and so forth. No, no! Any world is a valid world if it's alive. The thing to do is to bring life to it, and the only way to do that is to find in your own case where the life is and become alive yourself." -- Joseph Campbell

It is the moments that we've chosen to rise above our circumstances and challenge the boundaries that have developed our character and made us who we are. In every story known to man, it is this quality that defines the "hero." Joseph Campbell outlines this in his work "The Hero's Journey" and goes further to say that each one of us desires to be the hero in our own life's story.

The only way we do that is by stepping the fuck up.

Stop playing the victim of circumstance. Stop yielding to the condition of our current existence and use that existence to affirm the life within us and open ourselves to the world that lies before us. Heroes are born this way, and they are the ones we look to for inspiration. Wouldn't it be amazing if we no longer had to look with envy at the hero outside of us but made the conscious, compelling, personal choices every single day to realize the hero within? Arthur Boorman is more than a hero to the more than 3 million people who watched him on YouTube... he's a hero for himself. He's proven to himself what he is capable of and has established the kind of self confidence that an unshakable person has when someone looks at them, and says, "You can't," and they just laugh. They laugh because they know it's a silly, unfounded saying and they understand that of course, I CAN.

For more inspiration: Mumford & Sons, "Roll Away Your Stone"

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