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Baby Boomers Face Problems Caring For Elderly Parents

With our parents aging and life expectancies lengthening, a growing number of Baby Boomers are going to have to care for and support their parents.
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We're living longer, so you might have to care for Mom and Dad more than you think - here's how.

With our parents aging and life expectancies lengthening, a growing number of Baby Boomers are going to have to care for and support their parents.

A new survey sponsored by A Place for Mom and The Mutual Fund Store, shows that 28 percent of Americans whose parents are still living say they already are and will need to support their parents at some point.

The difficulty with that is the 86 percent of Americans who say they're concerned about their ability to support their parents during their retirement.

"Through our work with families, we find that it's quite common for adult children to provide financially for their aging parents, but it's not often clear if families had expected or planned to do so," says Ed Nevraumont, CMO of A Place for Mom, a living referral service for older Americans of which Joan Lunden is an advocate. Now it Counts did an exclusive interview with Joan Lunden late last year about her courageous battle with breast cancer -- and her advocacy for long-term caregiving help, after losing her mom, Gladyce, who had dementia for many years.

The goal of this survey was to explore Americans' knowledge of their retirement benefits, gauge their concern around supporting their parents financially as they age, and help underscore the importance of families to start talking about the difficult conversation of caregiving, Nevraumont says.

A Place for Mom and The Mutual Fund Store, a system of investment advisors, commissioned a survey by the Harris Poll.

What those organizations are telling people is that families can avoid planning mistakes by understanding and discussing all of the costs associated not only with retirement but long-term care.

The survey found that 42 percent haven't even discussed the issue with their parents about caring for them in their retirement. Some 27 percent of those who say they need to support their parents say they haven't discussed it with them.

"This survey shows that too many families are not discussing financial planning with aging loved ones," says Andy Smith, executive vice president of investments at The Mutual Fund. "It's an important reminder for families to start voicing concerns about retirement finances as well as to make senior care a priority for themselves and for loved ones."

What five steps should families take in planning for those expenses for their parent's elderly care?

No. 1. Start gathering and organizing important financial and legal documents so family members know where to find these in an emergency.

No. 2. Find an advisor who understands livings options and those for a variety of care for aging Americans. Each case would be based on a particular situation and budget.

No. 3. Also find a financial advisor who understands different investment vehicles to prepare for retirement and care of their parents.

No. 4. Map out a budget for care using sources of available income. That means looking into veteran benefits, long-term care insurance your parents might have, 401(k)s and other investments.

No. 5. If you are relying on government assistance, educate yourself on the differences between Medicare and Medicaid, and what is covered, officials say.

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