Balance is for the Birds

Last night, I caught up on the laundry.

The overflowing baskets had been in my family room, staring at me, for several days.

All seven of them.

While I sorted and folded, I started thinking about that elusive thing we call balance. 

Motherhood requires an incredible amount of juggling. Whether you are working outside the home, staying at home, homeschooling, whatever ... we all have multiple balls in the air.

No one is immune to feeling off-kilter.

Last night, as I tackled the laundry, I wondered whether balance is even possible.

This week? This week I was terrible at laundry. There are times when I'm a laundry rock star. Other times, I'm better at meal planning. And then there are the times when it feels like I'm failing across the board.

I never feel like I'm rocking all the things at the same time.

Do you know what I think?

I think balance is for the birds.

I think this concept of balance is a nice idea. It's wonderful to think about, but it is an impossibility. You can try to balance all the things, but it is inevitable that you end up listing to one side, off-kilter.

This week I failed laundry. Meals weren't all that impressive either. My house is messy. But, I was really good at focusing on my family.

That's always my first priority as a wife and mom: to love on and take care of my family. Some weeks, for whatever reason, this takes more time and energy and heart and love. 

Because there are times when life feels harder.

Sometimes, the news is scary.

Sometimes, bad things happen to good people.

Sometimes, friends get sick, or their children get sick, or their loved ones get sick.

And sometimes, families suffer incredibly heartbreaking losses.

When everything feels harder, all you want to do is to love your family and be grateful for this moment, right now, because you know it could change in a blink. These moments are wake-up calls; they force us to focus on what is important while the laundry mounts.

So, no I don't think there's such a thing as balance. You can try to get close, but you'll never fully achieve it.

Furthermore, I believe there are times when it might even be healthy to let yourself dip to one side and feel wildly off kilter, especially if it allows you to be more present as a parent.

The truth is, years from now, no one is going to remember that week of fantastically planned dinners, sparkling clean bathrooms, or perfectly folded laundry. Instead, they are going to remember the beautiful moments in between all of those things... even if those moments were spent in a messy house, in jammies, with laundry baskets staring at you.

A version of this article was originally published on My Little Poppies.

Cait is a school psychologist, mom to three amazing children, and an unexpected homeschooler. She loves nature, good books, board games, strong coffee, and dancing in her kitchen. She blogs about the journey at My Little Poppies. Cait co-hosts The Homeschool Sisters Podcast. Cait is also a contributing writer at Simple Homeschool and GeekMom. Her work has been featured on The Mighty and Scary Mommy. You can find her on FacebookInstagram, Pinterest, Twitter and G+.

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