The best word to describe passion is animalistic. It is sex that is a bit out of control. In modern western society, we spend years socializing our children out of animal-like behavior in order for them to behave. When the self-conscious part of your brain that tells you to be a good girl or boy shuts down, passion begins. Out comes the part of you that wants to bite, grab, growl, and satisfy all of your senses. In our sexually repressed culture, many people fantasize about having passion overtake them and their lovers. The passionate sexual movie is very common because it allows you to go beyond the constraints of being nice and compliant and makes you feel truly alive in your body.
In this series we introduce the ways that finding the genre of your "hottest sexual movie" can bring infinite pleasure to a relationship. Last week we detailed how "the romantic movie" plays out in fantasy and reality. Whereas the romantic movie is about feeling deeply loved, the passionate story is about intense, insatiable desire. Rather than appealing to our very human need to feel seen and understood, the passionate story is about unexplained, uncontrollable animalistic desire taking hold.
No action captures the essence of the passionate story more than a passionate kiss, by now depicted in so many movies that it might appear cliché. However, when done right, it doesn't look or feel cliché at all. We have helped many clients reignite passion on multiple levels just by nailing this one important experience.
Here are the basics of delivering a killer, Passionate Kiss:
- The Look: It is important to begin with a passionate look, letting all of the animalistic desire come into your eyes and holding it.
- The Build Up: Waiting before jumping into a kiss builds tension and lets you sit in the uncertainty of whether or not all the passion will be met. If you go too quickly to the kiss, you don't allow tension and excitement to build. By waiting, you allow yourself and your lover to build to a frenzy of desire where you can't rip each other's clothes off fast enough.
- The Delivery: Don't be afraid to grab hair, a collar, or the back of their head and really let yourself express your passion with your mouth and tongue but also with your entire body pressed against theirs. If you feel like giving a little lip nibble- got for it.
We promise you won't regret where this kiss can lead. Here is a story one of our male clients told us about his girlfriend's passionate approach to sex:
"Usually my girlfriend seems to be more into romance, but every once in awhile it's like she's possessed. It sometimes happens on vacation or when something really great happens in her life. I know it's happening because she gets this look in her eye like I'm just a piece of meat. I know women might not like feeling like a piece of meat and, to be honest, the first time I saw it I was a little surprised, but I definitely don't mind feeling like a piece of meat. This one time, she walked in the door wearing this really tight, sexy dress and she had that look in her eyes. Before she even got to me, she started taking her clothes off, and she just pushed me down on the bed. She started kissing me and grabbing me and taking my clothes off. She took my hands and started moving them all over her body, encouraging me to grab her ass and her nipples really hard. I could feel her grinding on me..."
Anyways...we will leave the rest to your imagination. After all, this is all about finding your own Hottest Sexual Movie. As you start to see what genre most appeals to your deepest desires don't forget that you can always incorporate various elements of each into your special mix. Romance and passion often go hand and hand, and in our recent book, Making Love Real, we give you a template for how to seamlessly integrate multiple fantasy types into you sexual encounters. Stay tuned for our next post on the "Dominant/submissive" movie and how to bring your power play fantasies to life.