Being Mindful Through a Divorce

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Walking the path of divorce is mind numbing. There are days when we wake up and we are already counting the hours till we can go back to bed. All we can think about is our pain, what needs to get to the attorney or the accountant and how are we going to keep it together. Getting a divorce can take years in some cases so it’s important to be very mindful of living (not just surviving) our life in the process.

Your thoughts create your life so here are some thoughts I would like for you to commit to memory, not just to use during your divorce but for life!

- Divorce does not define you, how you get through it does.

- Being your best doesn’t mean being perfect.

- Turn your divorce into a beacon not an abyss.

- You learn to love yourself more than you care or love the person who hurt you.

- People don’t set your limits; you do.

- Get out of your own way.

- Rise each morning with hope and anticipation in your heart.

- Divorce can close you off. Stay open to see the miracles and remember, miracles don’t always come with a marquee. They can be small but powerful.

- Trust your inner wisdom.

- Have your own purpose/passion.

- Do what makes you happy.

- Don’t believe the naysayers and give up. Change does happen but you create the change you want.

- Life is tough, but you’re tougher.

- Get out of your comfort zone.

- Just because something worked 5 years ago doesn’t mean it works now. Make room for new things.

- Focus on your strengths more than improving your weaknesses. As a Man Thinketh, don’t get hung up on what you’re not good at, stand strong in what you are good at.

- Let go of the outcome and enjoy the moment!

- Divorce needs to be about healing, not just splitting assets.

- Write down your fears post divorce and then their solutions.

- Work on being open to see others point of view including your children’s.

- Use divorce to course correct the rest of your life.

- Being in the present moment was never more important than now.

- Don’t respond to things based on your fears or hurts. Be non judgmental and don’t take things personally.

- Don’t be reactionary. Take a deep breath and look at the bigger picture before responding. Divorce is not black and white.

- If you write a story where all the blame goes on the other person, you are robbing yourself of tremendous growth.

- Divorce can become mindless if you let your ego take over. Stay in control.

- ALL of this is time limited.

- Find ways to lessen your daily load. Perfection is out the window.

- Do the things you enjoy.

- Happiness is something we ourselves generate, not our circumstances.

- Let go of things. Let go of mindsets or a belief system that no longer serves you. Let go of all the “shoulds” you have encountered in your life.

- Mother’s guilt is alive and well and living in your mind if you let it.

- Your children will always love you and this is not a competition.

- Stop worrying about what people have to say. They are not living your life.

- Your family structure has changed, so redefine it and stop struggling to keep it the same. It has changed, so change with it.

- And finally, there is hope for a newness that will light up your soul.

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