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Bolstering the Illusion

It's about our evolution, folks. About bringing out our best and saving the human race. Feelings come from the inside and are remedied there, too. Anything else is simply an illusion, and illusions are never true.
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Extreme good fortune. That's how I describe the fact that, for whatever reason, many years ago God hit me with this revelation: What I (and all people) feel on the inside is not the result of what's happening -- or has happened, or might happen -- on the outside. When this revelation hit, five things instantaneously changed for me:

1. No matter how it appeared, it no longer made sense to attribute my feelings to the circumstances of my life.

2. No matter how bad I felt, it no longer made sense to cope with my feelings or my life.

3. I realized that the human mind was innately wired to self-correct.

4. I realized that (while they're doing their best to help) most counselors, therapists, and mental coaches don't understand numbers 1 through 3.

5. I decided to spend the rest of my life reversing the misunderstanding revealed in numbers 1 through 4.

This is no small task.

Why? Because at our spiritual core everyone knows what became clear to me (our feelings are generated from within), yet feelings looks so much like they're the result of circumstance. Indeed, the clash between what we know and what we perceive is enough to drive anyone insane. Plus, adding to the insanity is what I alluded to in number 4: Most self-help experts are bolstering the illusion that feelings are the result of circumstance. The self-help world prods us to look outside when we feel troubled. It urges us to analyze why we feel this way. And it provides us with coping strategies touted as cures. Ugh!

There is hope, however. There are folks from all walks of life who are rising above the illusion. They're pointing us toward our own thinking and innate ability to self-correct. Preachers and authors. Musicians and garbage haulers. Athletes and artists. The traditionally trained and those with no training at all. Men, women, and children. Especially children. Their inborn resilience shines like a beckon.

The bottom line is that it's now time for all of us to stop bolstering the outside-in illusion. If you're a self-help professional who hears a calling to stop doling out excuses and quick fixes -- listen. I promise you'll still have plenty to talk about with your clients. If you're a person in crisis, the only long-term solution is to look within and reconnect. Again, it's okay and normal for it to look like your feelings come from the outside. What's never okay or helpful is that you buy into this trick of the mind and blame, force, or try to fix.

It's about our evolution, folks. About bringing out our best and saving the human race. Feelings come from the inside and are remedied there, too. Anything else is simply an illusion, and illusions are never true.