What's The Difference Between "Breakup Blues" And "Obsessing Over Your Ex"?

We had mental health and relationship expert Dr. Jeff Gardere stop by the program to talk to us about what to do if you’re obsessing over an ex. His new program is called Exaholics (, and it's an online community designed to help people get through their breakups.

"Breakup Blues" Versus an "Ex Obsession"

Knowing the difference between “the Breakup Blues” and “obsessing over your ex” can be difficult to determine when the wounds are still fresh. And that’s okay - “It’s your party, you can cry if you want to,” says Dr. Jeff. However, if you’re still feeling helpless going on one month or more, and “you’re not eating or sleeping, or can’t get out of bed,” then Dr. Jeff advises taking action. You don’t wan’t to get to the point where you’re “having hurtful thoughts,” or engaging in “stalking behavior”; that, he says, is a sign of “obsession”.

You can watch the full interview here.

For more on handling a breakup, be sure to check out Dr. Jeff's Exaholics program at

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