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Brutal Honesty About What It Takes to Be Fit at 40, and an Unexpected Epiphany Thanks to Brooke Burke-Charvet

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Ahhh... I cannot tell you how much I love this quote I recently ran across from Ms. Burke-Charvet:

"If not now, when?" she says. "I totally am working hard at it. It's all good. I'm proud of the work that I'm doing. I work hard for [my fit physique], so I feel really good at 42, and I put in the time. There are no tips and tricks and secrets. It's sweat, it's hard work, it's a commitment, and it feels good to be in shape."

Brooke, I totally get it! I work really hard for my body too.

Not just anyone can languor over a weekend lunch for three hours, or make the time to sip (not one, but) two fresh squeezed lemon drop martinis (made with chopin vodka thank you very much.)

My lush figure comes from a commitment that can keep me in my kitchen for hours at a time and not everyone is cut out for that. Nor would they be up for the constant tinkering of recipes, and the horrors of trying to make treats like chocolate chip cookies out of oats and whole wheat flour. Blood, sweat, and tears people. My cookies are awesome by the way...

Seriously though, Brooke works hard to have a gorgeous fit body. She enjoys it and makes no excuses.

Quite frankly we should all learn a lesson from Ms. Burke-Charvet.

Enjoy our bodies and the work we put into them.

I know it seems like I am just being cheeky, but I am actually serious when I say I put a lot of time and effort into my body just like Brooke. I cook, I indulge, I enjoy cocktail hour several times a week, and I do it consciously and with joy. I don't eat junk (often), I don't drink junk (ever), and I exercise daily because it feels good to move. Because the motives and intensity are completely different Brooke and I have, ahem, different results.

Instead of beating myself up because I lack a hard, slim body, I reflect on how I got my soft body. Good times, those.

No matter what your bod is like right now take a second to stop beating yourself up and reflect on how you have earned what you see. Own it. Enjoy what you've got, or set about changing what doesn't feel so good. Realize that causing extreme changes in your body will almost always require extreme changes in your life. Are you willing to do that? If not, that is OK. No excuses, just live and enjoy.

I thank you Brooke.