Celebrating My Fourth Birthday As An Adult Woman (A Story Of Reinvention)

Celebrating My Fourth Birthday As An Adult Woman (A Story Of Reinvention)
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This weekend is my fourth birthday.

Well, let me clarify. I'm a relatively mature 32 years old and frankly, I have enough life experience to easily double that number.

But essentially, I wasn't born until four years ago.

Four years ago I let go of a past that kept me shackled to the deepest darkest parts of myself that I was so desperate to leave behind.

Four years ago I made the decision to leave every comfort I ever knew behind, and set off for the unknown, a decision I can't help but celebrate every single day of my life.

Four years ago I cured myself of the challenged mindset I lived with. The mindset that prevented me from really living, prevented me from making decisions that felt right, prevented me from exerting any sense of confidence at all. Prevented me from happiness.

My mindset was broken. Out of order. And dangerous.

I put myself in situations that I knew would fail miserably or hurt me even more, just to prove how I felt inside. I put others before myself always, just to showcase how little respect I had for my own needs. I didn't consider myself worth much at all, just because I had held on so tightly to the pain from long ago, in a really unhealthy way.

And without even realizing the power I was putting into my own hands as I set off for the unknown and moved far way from my past -- I broke the cycle. The cycle of being a victim of my own thoughts. And it all happened really fast.

As I reflect on the last four years, I have so much to be proud of. I manifested a life for myself I never thought I'd be worthy of. I started a business. Made friends who actually value me instead of use me. Built a life with the lessons I took with me, and worked hard to keep the pain separate from my actions.

And the best part? I became a mother. A good one, if I do say so myself.

Ironically, I've even developed an aspect of my career that allows me to empower and motivate other women. To share my story in hopes that just one out of the many women I speak to can use my experience as an example of how to learn to love themselves, and leave the past behind.

I am so excited to celebrate my fourth birthday this weekend.

Four years of freedom from a life I was once ashamed to admit to.

Four years of reinvention.

Four years of falling in love with myself -- the best love I've ever known.

And as fate would have it, I get to celebrate my fourth birthday of owning the hell out of my new life, as a speaker at South Florida's first ever Women Empower Expo. An Expo designed to bring like-minded women together, thousands of them, to celebrate one another and build each other up with empowering presentations and workshops

How's that for coming full circle?

Join me this Saturday as I take the stage at 3:30 PM -- click here for more info.

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