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Chaz Bono: It's Wrong To Say That I Was Born A Girl

"I didn't live my life as a girl," he says.

Some people say that nothing that's ever happened to you is lost; it's always accessible somewhere. In a sense, that's true for actor, author and LGBT activist Chaz Bono. But in another sense, he says, it's not.

Speaking with Oprah for an interview on "Oprah: Where Are They Now?", Chaz opened up about how presenting as female in his past has impacted his relationships with women.

"I definitely have a very different perspective than a lot of men, because I got a closer look at women for many years," Chaz says. "[But] "I don't think I understand women particularly better. Not the emotional side that we [men] don't get, that we are just, like, scared of."

Chaz, who transitioned in 2009, has been single since 2011, when he split from his girlfriend of five years.
Chaz, who transitioned in 2009, has been single since 2011, when he split from his girlfriend of five years.

This lack of understanding, he says, has always been a part of his relationships with women, even prior to his transition.

"Even before, [I] would find myself in relationships doing something that I had no idea what I'd done that really upset my girlfriend and I didn't know why, in the same way that men do," Chaz says.

At this point, I really feel just like a 46-year-old man who got here in a slightly different way than most men do.

This disconnect can seem perplexing to people who believe Chaz "lived life as a girl" for so many years. While some transgender individuals take offense to that phrasing, Chaz offers a fundamental correction to anyone who would make such a claim.

"It's not offensive, but it would be wrong," Chaz says. "I didn't live my life as a girl. I lived my life as a male inside a female body for a long time."

Now, however, he says he's finally comfortable in his body and being able to present as his true self.

"At this point, I really feel just like a 46-year-old man who got here in a slightly different way than most men do."

"Oprah: Where Are They Now?" airs Saturdays at 10 p.m. ET on OWN.

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