There are two main realms in life: love or fear. When we come from a place of love we do not react, have anger, have resentment and manipulation. We are not attached to outcomes that we can never truly control.
We do come from a place of integrity and authenticity. We are responsible for ourselves and do not have expectations for another to fulfill our full happiness.
Communication is a key factor and is easier than we think. We can change the full situation with just clear communication and coming from a mature place. If two people are already whole and not desiring to be saved then they can co-exist independently and come together respectfully.
The foundation of long lasting love and connection comes from sharing, listening and understanding. True friendship has these key aspects. There are all the emotions that intimacy contains: happiness, excitement, sadness, anger and fear. After all, we are human and desire love and connection. Other emotions get in the way and we allow them to override what we truly want. The trick is to emotionally release them and come from the heart. Ego gets in the way and we unconsciously block our hearts. This is a form of protection from the unknown. In the meantime, we are not allowing ourselves to be loved and give love freely. There seems to be a condition put on it. From a young age, we learn from our parents and if there were several don't's, no's and communication that was violent, we can shut down.
It can even take an dreadful experience as an adult that closes our heart.
So, what is the trick? First, loving yourself is key before loving another.
If you can take care of yourself, be kind to yourself and have an inner peace and happiness, then you can enter into a healthier relationship. The many emotional states will always be there: it is how you react to another when they arise.
Take advantage of the present and the moments to be shared now.
True freedom in life comes from letting go of the fears and negativity and choosing to be in a positive mind frame and solution oriented. Situations will always arise in our lifetime. It is how you choose to view them that makes a difference. We operate at different frequencies in life. Let's say there is a scale from 0 to 1000. You see a homeless person and view him as judgment being lazy or dirty. You are operating at low number below 400. If you view him as a soul that is living free and not constrained by the rules of society you are operating at a higher frequency above 700. This can be done in any situation. Do you tend to judge and put down others or go into the unknowing and wisdom? If one operates on a low frequency this spreads to many others and it is cancer causing. So, as a test try for a day to operate a high level frequency and see if you feel any different. Come from love, care, integrity, responsibility and compassion for situations that arise.
Do not gossip, judge, complain and put others down. See after a day how difficult or not this experience was. See how you feel when you are in this state and how you influence your work, home, friends and community. You can always go back to the old ways. See how you feel trying a new way for a day.
We begin life with giving and sharing love and as we get older we become more wise and peaceful.
How can we put this into our daily overall lives and feel fulfilled in love with ourselves and then others. When a situation arises see if you can choose love and peace. You can then feel the effects of freedom.