The second movie in the "Fifty Shades of Grey" series is about to be released. And I have written a lot about what is wrong with "Fifty Shades of Grey", but there are lessons in everything.
Christian Grey as a leading man got as many things right as he got wrong. After all, women couldn't put this book down right? So Christian was seducing them too. And I get it as we don't all get to be fabulously handsome billionaires. But Christian Grey could teach any man a few important tips to bring into his relationship if he is passionate around sex.
What Christian Grey Would Tell You About Seduction if He Could Be Bothered:
1. Let's start with anticipation! That's about all of the deliciousness that come before you get your hands on your lover. Yes, of course everyone knows that foreplay is very important to a woman's sexual experience, but I'm not talk about how long you touch her breasts or how much attention you give her genitals (all good things!). I am talking about the sexy text in the middle of the afternoon. The hot request that she meet you at the bar wearing no underwear. I am talking the tenor of your voice when you tell her how much you are looking forward to stripping her slowly later on that night. Learning to build anticipation is a skill that Christian Grey was masterful at. How can you build sexual tension in your relationship? Get her to simmer in her desire for you.
2. Let her know in her bones that she is the object of your desire. In other words, give your woman some attention! For many women, desire is the orgasm. Women want to know that they are wanted and that their lover thinks that they are sexy and beautiful. Communicate that to her -- a Lot. Feeling valued is a turn-on for many women. How can you show her that you value her?
3. Make sex important in your life. Christian Grey has an entire room devoted to sex. How much space do you give sex in your life? Sex is about more than penetration. Experiment with your fantasies and hers. Ask her to tell you her erotic secrets. Play games such as asking her to bring three sexy toys or videos to your next erotic tryst! Give her a gift certificate to a sex toy shop and ask her to go shopping. This tip also builds anticipation which was Tip One! How can you expand and shift up how you engage erotically with each other? Seduction is sometimes about not knowing what will come next. Make sex about more than who climaxes first.
4. Dress for success! Christian Grey always looked good. When women put themselves together for a date or love making -- they sweat the small stuff. How about you? I know a man who wears superhero underwear because they make him feel sexy! What are you putting on under your jeans? Dress to make yourself feel sexy and I can almost guarantee that if you are feeling sexy -- you will be sexy.