When someone you know is going through a trying time, it can be difficult to know what to say. "I love you" is always a beautiful show of support, but it's not the only phrase you can use to offer some comfort.
Here, six eloquent authors reveal the powerful words that can be particularly comforting to those experiencing grief, frustration, unhappiness or pain.
"Treat yourself gently."
Faith Salie believes these three words are extremely important. "Why that's even more comforting to me than 'I love you' is because it reminds you to love yourself," she says.
"I ordered pizza."
Sometimes, small gestures speak volumes, and in Patrick Phillips' house, he says food offers the ultimate comfort.
"You are forgiven."
It doesn't get much more comforting than this, according to Ross Gay.
"Talk to me."
Sigrid Nunez says it's just as important to listen as it is to speak. Similarly, Michael Paterniti suggests another comforting phrase once the conversation gets going: "I hear you."
"Take whatever time you need."
Giving the people time they need to grieve or experience the unknown is a big part of the healing process, says Andrea Flournoy. "[Saying this] makes them feel like their decisions are not connected to other people's expectations," she explains. "They don't have to worry about other people judging them because they're not becoming well-adjusted 'quick enough.'"
"You don't have to pretend."
This is the phrase Margo Jefferson would like to hear. "It allows them the space to let you know and let themselves know what's really going on," she says. "That's like sorting through the actual source of unhappiness and grief. It's like the stream starts moving again."
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