Confident Action: How to Change the Tracks in Your Mind

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If you've ever struggled to take action, please raise your hand.

I recently had a conversation with a good friend of mine, Aisha Brothers, about why some of us struggle so much with taking action. Why can't we, like Nike keeps telling us to, just do it!?

And then I gave her the ultimate challenge. "Ok lady, you say you want to be a writer. Write a post for my audience over at The Huffington Post. You keep talking about it. Show us how to stop the struggle and start taking action."

Truth be told, I knew she'd get it done. But I also knew that she doubted her ability to get it done. Determined to give her that boost of confidence she needed I said, "You write the words, I'll share the message. Let's change some lives."

Without further adieu, I share with you 3 Steps for Taking Action and Changing the Tracks in Your Mind, written by Aisha Brothers...

This article almost didn't happen. I was so close to not following through. Again. You see, I have this old, overplayed EP with 4, P tracks that like to lay claim to my brain. The familiar voices singing ever so softly in my ear with the same venomous lyrics to get me in my normal moods:

The mood for Perfectionism: "It's not good enough." "No one will read it."

The mood for Procrastination: "Why don't you just wait until tomorrow?"

The mood for Panic: "Crap! I only have a few hours until it's due - what was I thinking?"

The mood for Paralysis: "I can't do it. I just can't, what's the point?" "Maybe next time."

Have you ever played those tracks on repeat in your mind? I think at one time or another we all do.

The bad news is, they can suck the life out of us and be the cause of many missed blessings in our lives. The good news is that there is hope to change the recordings of our mind so that we can march forward and push open the doors of opportunity in our lives.

How can we do that? Here's what I have done:

Assess your energy levels.
Recently, I had noticed I was extraordinarily tired. While I was sure it's because of my current stress eating and lack of exercise that manifests itself when I get scared, there was something else at play.

I wondered too if the physical changes of my body were an extension of a message being sent that it was tired (both mentally and physically) of the same song and dance of fear without action. It can be energy-draining to work oneself up about something, only to not have a release.

The tension just sits, and it builds slowly until something inside just implodes. There are times where we have to get so tired of doing the same thing, getting the same results before we work through the fear and take a different approach (I believe someone wise said a version of this at one point).

If you have felt weary or drained lately, schedule some down time to recharge.

Get angry, er, I mean, focused.
Listen, when it really hit me that I was so sick of going through the same process of listening to the negative, irrational self-talk ballads that led to missed opportunities upon opportunities, I started to get mad.

Not fake mad, where I huffed and puffed and pouted, but the type of mad you see on your phone; you know, legit, red emoji-face mad. I took some time to grieve the lost time and chances, then decided that this time I would not allow the lies to continue to play on repeat.

This time, I chose to counter-attack with positive affirmations and messages about my worth, along with a plan to jump the hurdles of the 4 P's to get to the other side. Write down all of the opportunities that the lack of confidence robs you of.

If you are not mad enough to get in motion after 5 minutes of contemplation, then you are doing it wrong. It is time to write new lyrics.

Do it.
It is abundantly clear that this was the hardest part or it wouldn't ever be a popular topic of discussion. I know, I get it.

There is good news.

When I started to do a little bit at a time, I realized I had some momentum going. With that momentum, came a sense of accomplishment that I hadn't felt in a long time. You see, when the 4 P's dominate your life, you don't get to see a finish line; however, feeling accomplished lends itself to more positive, confident lyrics in my head...which led to more momentum - and action.

The next thing I knew, I had something completed. Imagine that. It was not easy. Nope, not at all. I cannot even sit here and promise you that I won't put on the old 4 P record in the future, or that you won't either.

What I do know is, if you can just take 1 small action each day you'll be that much closer to your goal.

Leave a comment and tell me what's the ONE small action you'll take, today, to get closer to your goal.

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