My beautiful friend and courageous trailblazer Vanessa Florence of Dancing Eros: Conscious Erotic Journeys for Women, recently created a sensation… and not a ‘Sensation' in the traditional social media sense of the word (although that is quite obviously the case too as my news feed is filled with women sharing about their relationship to their bottoms and bodies)…
I mean ‘Sensation' in that, because of her recent courageous and vulnerable sharing around her relationship with her bum of facebook, she has supported a wave of women to touch in with their own beauty, courage and body acceptance and find the SENSATION INSIDE THEMSELVES of remembering their self love and body love.
Women, of all different shapes and sizes, are posting about their relationship to their bottoms from a real and vulnerable place. With so many different women sharing their individual journeys with their bodies and bottoms, there is a cultural reframe occurring. As we begin to see our relationship with our bodies from a new perspective, we start to realise that we all bought into an external imprints about what our bodies ‘should’ look like.
Too big, too small, too soft, too firm, too dimply, too this or that!
With the airbrushed ‘norms’ surrounding us, there is always a reference point for us to use to condemn ourselves and I love that this wave of women sharing their very broad and unique experiences of their relationships with their bodies, we can come to a new level of self acceptance and love and begin to reshape our cultural tendency to look for flaws rather than celebrate diversity.
This wonderful celebration is so important for our journey into deeper love with ourselves and therefore each other. I am so happy that my FB news feed is filled with BUMS BUMS BUMS! Amazing courageous Dancing Eros women and beyond...
Last year I had a breakthrough around the relationship with my bottom and felt to re-share the article here as it feels relevant and is still an ongoing journey through and ever changing body and an ever changing relationship with it… at the time, I posted this sans image, so it is feeling vulnerable and also empowering to share it with this image of my round bottom...
Im having an entirely new experience - I am having a loving of my bum! This is new. This is wonderful! A couple of years ago, I fell in love with my breasts after many years of throwing venom at them in a fierce way. I now cherish them - they are so much of this Beings womanly expression. And now, this love has just spread to my bottom! Celebration!
This has been such a gradual process of diving into the juice of the woman that I am and allowing love and acceptance for ALL parts of me - it is an ongoing process. The words I have spoken to my body over the years are words that I would NEVER say to another being.
Such cruelty would never cross my lips to another, so how is it that I can so easily say such things to myself?
Body image issues hold such insidious energy, such cultural and pervasive mind power. I am actually noticing that I am feeling guilty about loving my bottom. Almost like I am not allowed to shift the body hate paradigm, not allowed to move against the current of this powerful thought-form.
Wow, after a moment of celebration, I noticed an energetic band close across my throat and guilt wash through me. Guilt that my celebration may cast a shadow on someone else's body image issue instead of inspiring them. Guilt that someone might shame me for loving my imperfect body. F*&% that!!
Time to shift the paradigm, people! Time to lift each other up and celebrate ALL of us - whatever form we come in!! We are f@#&ing BEYOODIFUL!!
May all women - make that ALL people - across all the world, come to celebrate and LOVE their bottoms and bodies! Whatever shape or size, love love love it!
Sir Mix-a-Lot had some clues… “so Cosmo says your fat, well I aint down with dat”.
May you find a softening next time you look in the mirror, a softening to love the glow that illuminates your soul and the perfection of the form of the vessel it is carried in...
I love you all and I now love my bum.