Don't do this...
A big obstacle to finding love after 50 happens when you're NOT putting yourself in places where you can be seen and found by available men on a DAILY BASIS!
Men can't find you when you're hiding every night at home.
I know it feels great after a long day at work to snuggle up with a good book, your fave TV show or your cat or dog for some unconditional loving.
But you need exposure to men, whether in person or online and its not happening if this is your nightly routine.
No one is going to know you're even available and even worse, they can't find you.
Start going out at night and on the weekends.
Go to restaurants with friends. Men are always there.
Take classes like golf. What man doesn't love improving his golf swing and now they can do it year round at indoor and outdoor driving ranges.
Go to places like the library.
Men are there checking out books and movies every day.
The thing is single men are everywhere. All you have to do is make sure you're in places where the two of you can meet.
Have a vision that is too narrow when it comes to the kind of men you are willing to date.
Ask most women what they want in a man and a type similar to Richard Gere's character in "Pretty Woman" comes to mind.
He's rich, sassy and has a heart.
Having been spoon fed on fairy tales as a little girl can jade you to who a great guy might be- often giving you unrealistic expectations of who "Quality Men" really are.
Stay open to dating all kinds of men with all kinds of looks, backgrounds, and interests as long as they are economically self sufficient, meaning they can hold their own and won't be financially dependent on you.
Of course, its nice to think of having a rich handsome man sweep you off your feet but what you really want is a man who is going to be there for you through the ups and the downs of this journey called life.
That man is a keeper!
Give up on dating after one or even five bad dates!
There is no doubt about it, without the right skill set and support in place, dating can be hard.
I teach women all the time how to create a Finding Love after 50 Dating Blueprint that gives them their next step for finding love because I know how easy it is to get bogged down by all there is to know about dating at this time in their life.
Just remember you don't have to take a giant step to get out of dating frustration.
You can always take a look at the next steps down below to get some ideas if you're feeling stuck.
Do this instead...
Dating has a learning curve just like every new endeavor does.
Be persistent and consistent by having a plan in place for meeting quality men.
Have fun meeting new and interesting men.
If they aren't a romantic interest, consider making them your friend.
And instead of quitting when a date goes bad, chalk it up as being one more man closer to the real man you are looking for.
Understanding Men is the biggest DO you can put on your list.
Most women treat men as if they were women in men's bodies.
The problem with that is men don't relate to the language we speak and hear and they aren't triggered by words like we are.
They are motivated by wanting to keep you safe and protected as your hero.
It took being told by two men that I wasn't letting them be a man before the bell went off and I realized I was doing something wrong that was pushing men away.
Once I learned the language that men speak and hear, my relationship with men changed for the better both in my love life and professionally.
I found they couldn't do enough for me.
Lisa Copeland is known as the expert on over 50's dating. She's the best-selling author of The Winning Dating Formula For Women Over 50 and her mission is to help as many women around the world as she can discover how to have fun dating and finding their Mr. Right after 50. To get your FREE Report, "5 Little Known Secrets To Find A Quality Man," visit www.findaqualityman.com.
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