For most women, finding the right guy after 50 can be frustrating and tiresome.
I've found the women who get out there and have the most fun attracting and meeting Quality Men have these 10 traits in common.
#1...Women who are happily dating feel really great about themselves.
They lead active lives that make them exciting, passionate and interesting to men. This woman will make space for a man and the life they'll lead together without giving up herself and all the activities in her own life just to please him.
#2...They know how to get in touch with their girly-girlness
Aka ... their true feminine power, which has men jumping at the chance to date them. Here's the key to knowing how girly-girl you are ... Do you want the man in your life to respect or cherish you above all? If you said cherish, you're are probably in touch with your inner girly-girl.
#3...Women who know and speak the language men can hear have a huge advantage over other women out there.
If you share the types of stories with your guy that you'd share with your girlfriend, it's likely you'll lose him right off the bat. Men can't follow what your sister's best friend's husband did with his wife. Save that for processing over drinks on your girls' night out.
#4....Ever watch one of my favorite movies, "Gone With The Wind"?
Before Rhett Butler came along, Scarlett O'Hara could have written the book on how to let a man be a man. It didn't matter what a man did for her ... she appreciated him and refrained from criticizing or telling him how to do his job. Both of these are huge keys into a man's psyche.
#5....My clients who found great guys online had AWESOME profiles!
They had the type of profile that drew quality men in by using a story men could imagine themselves in. True, they worked with me on creating their profiles, which helped because I showed them what to do to weed out the guys they didn't want to meet.
#6...Women who meet good matches online are willing to look beyond the selfies, the motorcycles and the guys who post pictures with other women.
Online dating is one-dimensional, meaning you can't see how a man's personality and looks blend together to form a real person. You want to take the time to read profiles. Also look at the environment surrounding him in his picture ... it can also give you an idea of who he is.
#7...Women who have the most fun dating go on a date looking to meet someone new and interesting.
They don't do an interview and they don't check off an imaginary "must have" checklist that knocks guys off faster than you can drink a cup of coffee. There are good guys out there who could be your friend too. And who knows? Sometimes a friend can become the one. You'll never know unless you give that nice guy a chance.
#8...Women who date men who aren't their usual type find there are far more good men out there to date than they ever imagined.
It's easy to get in a rut, dating the same guy over and over again, just with different clothes. You're attracted to him not because he's good for you but because he feels safe and comfy like that old pair of shoes you can't seem to throw away.
#9...To be successful at dating over 50, you have to keep at it.
A BIG mistake women make is giving up on dating after five dates with five not so great guys. Keep getting out there meeting those new and interesting men we talked about in #7. Try new dating sites. There are a lot of niche sites out there that cater to different interests you might have.
#10...The women who have the most fun dating and meeting Mr. Right got help when they needed it.
They recognized they couldn't do it all alone. Whether they read my blog, coached with me one-on-one or in a group, what made the difference is they took action to get the advice they needed, and then used what they learned in our time together to meet the right guy for them.
You don't have to do this journey alone. Keep reading these blogs, read my book about dating and let me know when you're ready to talk about making a commitment to finding love this year.
Lisa Copeland is known as the expert on over 50's dating. She's the best-selling author of The Winning Dating Formula For Women Over 50 and her mission is to help as many women around the world as she can discover how to have fun dating and finding their Mr. Right after 50. To get your FREE Report, "5 Little Known Secrets To Find A Quality Man," visit www.findaqualityman.com.
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