#1. You Don't Match the Picture In His Head
Do you carry a specific picture in your mind of the man you'd like to spend the rest of your life with?
Most of us do, so it shouldn't be surprising when I tell you men do as well.
In fact, when a man contacts you, it's because he believes that you and the picture in his head just might be a match.
The two of you spend hours on the phone.
He starts talking out loud sharing thoughts with you like, "We'll have to get you out here on one of my horses," or "Let's try out the latest Japanese restaurant in your area since you love sushi so much."
His picture is working overtime, thinking you might be the one and you get excited thinking maybe he's right for you too!
Then the two of you meet.
And within minutes he's decided you aren't a match to the picture of the woman he wants, so the second date doesn't happen.
When this happens, don't take it personally.
It's just the picture in his head of who he wants and who you turn out to be do not match.
This is why you want to limit the number of emails you exchange to five to 10 max and the time you spend on the phone to one or two calls max prior to meeting a new man.
You don't want to get yourself emotionally invested in an imaginary relationship with a man you have yet to meet.
#2. You Have Sex With A Man Too Quickly!
You meet a man, the chemistry is hot and as the date ends, the two of you start kissing and kissing and kissing some more.
Hands start roving all over the place and you find yourself in the back seat of the car having sex with a man you've only known a couple of hours.
You're both on fire.
In this moment, it feels good and it feels right.
When it's over, he kisses you and says, "I'll call you" but he doesn't.
Why? The sex was too easy for him to get.
Men categorize the women they date into two groups.
The first are the women they play with, as in first date sex or friends with benefits situations.
It's easy sex, it's fun for him but that's all it is.
Then there is the second category, the woman he considers as potential relationship material. This is where he thinks the two of you might be a match.
So if you want to make it to category number two, promise yourself, even when your hormones are raging, that you'll slow it down.
Hold off having sex and this means anything beyond kissing, until you think a real relationship is a possibility.
There are all kinds of reasons men don't call back ... Some are as silly as a mannerism you display that reminds him of his ex.
Save yourself a lot of date analysis and evaluation by not taking a first date personally and by not being invested in how it's going to turn out.
If it's meant to be, it will be. And if it's not, chalk it up to an opportunity to spend some time with a new and interesting person that day.
What have you experienced? Let me know in the comments below.
Lisa Copeland is known as the expert on over 50's dating. She's the best-selling author of The Winning Dating Formula For Women Over 50 and her mission is to help as many women around the world as she can discover how to have fun dating and finding their Mr. Right after 50. To get your FREE Report, "5 Little Known Secrets To Find A Quality Man," visit www.findaqualityman.com.
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