I wanted it. Really, really badly.
And that "it" could be any number of things -- a job, a super-skinny body, loads of cash, a boyfriend, a car, a vacation, working for myself. Whatever. I just had to have it. So, I went after it full throttle. I hustled. I hurried. I followed leads. I networked. I online dated. I used all of the manifestation gumption in my power (and as a first-born Aries, that's a lot!) to make what I wanted happen.
Sometimes this worked like magic. Other times, no matter what I did, what I desired would not show itself to me. Lesser forms might appear but the true manifestation of what I wanted still evaded me. Dejected and frankly irritated that my usual manifestation power failed, I often launched into a full-on tantrum aimed specifically at the universe. This typically involved tears, yelling and feet stomping followed by giving the universe the double finger. I know, real mature, right? My inner 13-year-old was alive and well.
Even more shocking, what I wanted had yet to materialize. It seems as though the universe won't surrender to temper tantrums. Who knew?!
Finally, exhausted, I would stop trying. I would eat what I wanted, spend money when I wanted and only do the work that I wanted. I stopped networking and spent time with myself. Around that time said object of my desire would either show up or I would forget I cared so much about it because something even more fantastic had arrived.
Did it happen because I finally raised my vibration to align with what I wanted? Or was it because I wasn't "meant" to have it until that divinely appointed time? Does it matter?
Actually no, it doesn't. What does matter is the principle -- that when we are trying and working so hard to "make" or "manifest" something -- it simply cannot happen. When we relax, have fun and take care of ourselves, then what we want can manifest. The very energy of wanting something so badly hurtles it far, far away from us.
Manifesting is one of the awesome gifts of being human. But one of the primary components of manifesting is to send our request out into the universe and then let it go. Surrender to the powers that be and let it do the heavy lifting.
Spiritual teacher and author Marianne Williamson says,
When we surrender to God, we surrender to something bigger than ourselves -- to a universe that knows what it's doing. When we stop trying to control events they fall into a natural order, an order that works. We're at rest while a power much greater than our own takes over, and it does a much better job than we could have done. We learn to trust that the power that holds galaxies together can handle the circumstances of our relatively little lives.
You may have noticed that while reading the above quote your whole body relaxed. That you even let out a little sigh. It's simply the deeper part of you saying "yes." Take this quote and put it up -- on your bathroom mirror, in your car on your tea kettle -- any place where you can regularly see it.
Remember that you are a powerful being and one of the greatest powers you have lies in surrendering to something even larger and more powerful than you.
And when you surrender you will find, as I have, that you won't ever have to flip anyone off again, including the universe.
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