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Divorce and Unfulfilled Dreams

Your dream is not the end result; it is just a stepping-stone to another dream. Enjoy the journey between dreams. I can't stress this point enough. Life is best lived in the present moment. You can't get this time back so while you are working on your dream, appreciate and enjoy the time in-between.
09/24/2015 04:51pm ET | Updated September 24, 2016
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In my practice I see women everyday that have had to let go of their dreams due to divorce and search for new ones. A common thread in all of this is happiness. "Is it possible to be happy when you still have unfulfilled dreams?" My answer to them is a big resounding "Yes." "How is that possible?" they ask. It is a choice of where you put your focus. As my clients will attest, I am big, HUGE on positive thinking. The way you think is a life changer so here is where I invite you to put your focus.

- Give thanks for what you have presently and thanks for what is yet to come. Get up each morning with a gratitude list and a sense of expectation.

- Continue to find beauty and pleasure in those small things around you. Typically it isn't the big things that touch your soul.

- Live your truth. Be and speak who you are. Doors open faster when you are happy with yourself and opened doors mean pathways to your dreams.

- Do for others and be in the moment with them. Give to others and others will give to you.

- Open your heart, for when you do, unexpected things happen.

- Continue dreaming and never give up. That doesn't mean, however, that in the course of this dream, you realize it's not for you, that you don't switch paths.

- Do not become discouraged, as that will only inhibit you realizing your dream. Instead, become motivated. Channel your thoughts and feelings in a positive direction.

- Don't get so caught up in the dream that you forget to live today. It's one thing to be focused and another to lose focus.

- Your dream is not the end result; it is just a stepping-stone to another dream. Enjoy the journey between dreams. I can't stress this point enough. Life is best lived in the present moment. You can't get this time back so while you are working on your dream, appreciate and enjoy the time in-between.