I get that going for what you really want can be terrifying...
(including with your weight loss).
I understand that going for what you really want can be terrifying sometimes and thoughts can run through your mind, such as "What if it doesn't happen for me?" "What if I can't handle it?" "What if my dream never comes true and then I feel worse?"
As I move into my last week of pregnancy with my little boy, Grayson, I have been faced with fear many times. This is what I have learned, though...
The only risks you ever regret are
the ones you never took!
(including your weight loss)
I've heard from hundreds of clients that they have fear about losing weight. They don't usually realize this until they have actually started their weight loss journey though. This is often times when people are sideswiped by a new set of fears.
They can sound something like this...
- What if I lose weight and then attract more attention?
- What if I can't keep it off and then look like a failure?
- What if I give up using weight as an excuse to being in a relationship and then I get my heart broken?
Thoughts like these can be incredibly debilitating, they will hold you back... paralyzed. If you have these unconscious fears, why would you not self-sabotage your efforts?
That's why it's so important to get very clear on what the internal conversation is that you're having with yourself. And if you find that it sounds similar to the above, you need to turn it around... and fast!
There is another way.
Here are some simple steps to facing these fears, so you can move forward towards the body and health you want...
- Get honest with yourself on any inhibitions you may have about losing weight.
- Write these inhibitions down.
- Sit quietly, spending time with each one of them and ask yourself, "Why does this fear come up for me? Where is it really stemming from?"
- Write down how you see allowing this fear to keep the weight on is hurting you.
- Write down how releasing this fear will lead you to your weight loss goal.
- Ask yourself, "Is it worth it to me to let go of this fear, so I can lose the weight that I want to lose?"
- Decide on one action step you will take to move past each fear and in the right direction.
I always suggest that you get into action right away. Holding off will only create more resistance. Find an accountability partner, or a group of people that will hold you accountable in the most loving and non-judgmental way possible.
As always, I'm here for you and if you need my support, simply reach out to firstname.lastname@example.org and let me know you saw me on The Huffington Post!
All my love,