You're single. Well, obviously, you're reading this.
Maybe you're dating somebody, and it's not feeling right. You're dating 'Mr. Good-Enough'. You know that guy?
The guy that's really good on paper, but when you see him, you don't feel loosey-goosey. You don't feel all warm inside. In fact, you don't feel much of anything. That bothers you. You want to feel something, and you want to feel for this guy, but you don't. So, you're out one night with friends, and you meet 'Mr. Evolved talker.'
The guy is unreal. He's a master with his tongue. Well, as far as you know. It's just conversation now. The way he speaks, the way he handles himself is amazing. He's charming you, and charming all your friends.
All of you like him, which is rare. The things he says are wise, and right on. It's almost as if you've met one of the smartest guys around. He entertains you and your friends for hours. Then, he pulls you aside. It's you, he wants. He even tells you so, and worse, he looks at you and says, "The minute I saw you, I realized I had to know more about you."
At the end of the night, he says something simple like, "Give me your number. I want to connect more with you."
You're spinning. You don't know what to do. You over-analyze it. You run home and you Google him, you try to find something wrong with this seeming 'Mr. Right.'
The more you look, the more you find, and you find something that's wrong. He might be too old for you, just out of your age range. He might be five years older than what you like to date, than what you're 'looking for'. Or he might have done something controversial in his life.
I don't know. You'll find something. You have to find something wrong because that's the way your mind thinks. There has to be something wrong with 'Mr. Right'. You have to find it, because if you don't find it, one of your friends will.
Mr. Right texts you the next morning. It's sweet. It's charming. It's exactly what you expected from him, but you don't get back to him right away. Instead you spend the whole day talking about him, thinking about him. You want to get back to him. You want to let go, but you're so damn afraid because for the first time in so long, you've found someone that excites you, and you're afraid of losing control, and that's what love is all about.
Falling in love is losing control. Falling in love is allowing. Falling in love is meeting somebody you've never met before. Falling in love is letting go, and feeling vulnerable, open, and damn, a little scared. It's a beautiful thing. So, let go. Because you'll never be able to control love, so don't try.