"This is going to be hard"
"This is going to 'suck'"
"I'm going to have a terrible time"
"I'm dreading going to work"
When we approach something with drudgery, what happens?
Our expectations never fail us, do they?
I think, many times, we create these scenarios by accident or based on previous experiences. And, worse yet, we may even impose our beliefs on how things will go or turn out on others or our kids.
I don't believe our actions are really our fault.
We just need to be aware we're doing this, and it's a really hard thing to do. I believe we've become conditioned to "expect" what will or might happen, and our energy put into that expectation can certainly make it so.
Our society runs on expectations. We expect the weather to be a certain way, a person to be sick or well or act a certain way, to get (or not get) a job, or a divorce, or that we can or cannot achieve something, or that you won't get that call, or _________________________ -- you fill in the blank.
Take a moment to reflect on this. What do YOU expect?
Are you sometimes disappointed because you were "right"?
Perhaps it is time to break the cycle. There's only so much time in our lives to expect the worse case scenario to materialize.
How about if we expect a POSITIVE outcome? Expectation can be a very powerful thing.
Maybe it's time for that call to come or that "thing" to work out. How about if you begin expecting that this will be: "The best trip ever", or "The best day at work", or "The best time with my kids", or "The best time with my spouse".
After all, it is time to enjoy life. It is Time to Play.
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Doreen Guma, MA, FACHE, CPC, CLC is a board certified healthcare executive, a certified professional life coach, the founder of the Time to Play Foundation, a 501c3 not for profit corporation inspiring everyone to enjoy life and author of If I Knew Then What I Know Now, Our Quest for Quality of Life. The concept behind time to Play and the Time to Play Foundation was absolutely created out of LOVE. Please see http://www.timetoplay.com/ for more information.