Life is so bizarrely beautiful. These are the little nudges of the universe and the divine intelligence that helps us move along our way. I love it as magic too. Or sacred truth that reveals itself only to those who are ready and open. Once you see the magic and once you believe there is an entire orchestrated symphony of miracles and beauty that jumps out everyday. It is the laws of attraction or boomerang effect.
It is the power of thoughts and faith. Many of us walk around looking at things, seeing them, doing them, but never really embracing the whole of it. We see each day as a new page or a long string of days leading up to whatever the next big "Event" there is to look forward to. This is so wrong. I myself used to do it. I would say: "I need something to look forward to." I'd focus on a vacation coming or a holiday or anything that presented hope, and every time I found I was somehow disappointed. Why? Because the external way of getting to a certain timeframe or an expectation is never fulfilling. It is only fleeting. It can be a great time or a wonderful experience, but the true fulfillment in our soul doesn't come from having GOTTEN there. Instead, we get sad, and disillusioned again when it's over.
I still do this although I know better. I actually do something worse. I start to get sad and upset BEFORE the vacation, experience, trip, movie, song is over because of its impending ending! I don't even stay in the moment, in the now to enjoy the twinkling twilight of whatever it is before it comes to a close. Instead I begin to mourn its' impending being gone... it's laughable really. More so because I am so painfully aware of it.
The thing is that looking forward to something, reaching for some get, some goal, some ambitious thing is celebrated everywhere. Everywhere you look there are lists of "how to get that bikini body in three months." Or "How to live more harmoniously." Honestly, I love lists. I write them, I get them published too, but ultimately the whole point is in the NOT DOING. Even NOT DOING is trying too hard at something and holding yourself up to a control or some measure that eventually will upset or disappoint you when you reach it and need to come up with something else, or worse, feel like a failure because you couldn't do it.
It may be a difficult concept to grasp. I'm not saying "Goals are bad." Or "Don't ever strive to be anything." I think those behaviors and innate survival tactics are present no matter what we try to tell ourselves. I'm not saying eradicate them.
I like the idea of "Considerations." Try considering that by being in every single moment you are actually more purposeful, more joyful and more in tune with all that is happening that your goals, dreams, love and intentions manifest themselves. Intention is so much stronger than goal. It has less pressure, and allows for acceptance and non-commitment to the outcome. That's the key I think.
Detaching from the outcome of a thing may be the hardest thing I've every tried to do. Even in having a conversation with someone we subconsciously want an outcome: "To make him or her feel better." Or "To get the latest news on an issue." Or "To feel connected" and when perhaps life or their mood or their intentions are different and the conversation shifts to something unexpected we may leave that conversation feeling down or unfulfilled. Why? Because we had some expected outcome attached to it.
If we didn't, the gratitude and sense of being IN the conversation no matter how it went, would be enough.
If we didn't, the gratitude and sense of being IN the conversation and sharing, regardless what way it went, would be enough.
Dive into "Expectations -- Part 2: The Boogeyman in Relationships."
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