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Fearless Living Boot Camp, Day 19: Ask For Help! (VIDEO)

What I know to be absolutely true is that NO ONE CAN BE FEARLESS ALONE. Period. End of story.
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Whew! Yesterday was a crazy Die for me. What about you? What's been your biggest Die so far? Be sure to share it at I want to hear what's been the toughest challenge so far. We've got 9 days of Boot Camp left, so LET'S GET GOING!

Watch this two-minute Fearless Living Boot Camp video, which I bet will have you chanting, "Help me, Rhonda"....

The world is crazy isn't it? We want to help but don't think others want to help us. How could that be? If we want to help strangers, friends, and coworkers with their projects, their passions, and their problems, why can't we believe that others feel the same way about us?

What is it that's stopping us from asking for the help we so desperately need? Or the help that could make our lives a lot easier -- and perhaps make us feel more loved?

Could it be pride?
Or fear of rejection?
Or is it just the drive for self-reliance that has us all askew?

What I know to be absolutely true is that NO ONE CAN BE FEARLESS ALONE. Period. End of story. So you know what's coming right? You guessed it.

The Fearless Living Boot Camp challenge for Day 19 is: Ask for help!

Ask someone to pass the sugar at Starbucks. Ask a friend to help you move. Ask a coworker to help you with a project. Ask someone to keep the door open for you. Ask that know-it-all girl if she has a referral for a good acupuncturist. Ask. Ask. Ask.

If the thought of asking is freaking you out, you are not alone. But don't let fear stop you.

Think of one thing that would make your life easier if you just asked for help. Now, think about who you could ask for that help. Is that person a stranger? A friend? Someone you know, but not too well? Who could help you with this situation?

Next, I want you to know that the person you ask won't be the source of your success; he or she can only contribute to it. They aren't the success itself. YOU are the reason success is radiating out all around you. Got it?

I know you don't want to "bother" anybody. I know you don't want to waste anyone's time or energy. I know you don't want to be seen as selfish or lazy or a loser and on it goes. I know you don't want to be seen as weak and incapable. I know. I know. And it's time for you to know that the only time you appear weak is when you decide not to have the courage to ask for help, to get your needs met, to take care of your whole beingness.

It's not okay to force your friends and family to watch you stay small just because you refuse to ask them for the help. You must ask. And you must ask today, to build your fearless muscle.

Know this: Your ability to ask for help, support, resources, knowledge, skills, connections is in direct relationship with your ability to be successful. No one gets ahead alone. And that's the good news.

We need each other, right? So let's start connecting through asking for help.

Remember: Keep counting up those Boot Camp points, so you can WIN! Go to and give yourself some points. Is asking for help a Stretch, Risk or Die for you? Add up those points, because soon you could WIN!

You could win my bestselling book, Fearless Living, or you could win THREE private one-on-one sessions with me, or my kick-butt Fearless Living Training Program. And of course, you'll receive the best gift of all: BECOMING FEARLESS!

Haven't enlisted in Fearless Living Boot Camp yet? It's not too late! To join the Boot Camp and log your fearless activity, use the Social Workout-powered widget just below. If you're a Facebook member, simply click the "Connect" button. To sign up with your email, cheer on your fellow enlistees, and see all the inspiring commentary, go to the Boot Camp homepage.

Please share this blog with your Facebook friends, Twitter followers and the people you love. I don't know about you, but I want the people in my tribe to be more fearless. The more fearless I get, the more fearless they get. The more fearless they get, the more fearless I get. It is the ultimate WIN-WIN. Help your own tribe win by sharing the Fearless Living Boot Camp Challenge with them today!

Let's become Fearless together!

P.S. Missed previous Boot Camp posts? You can catch them by clicking here, then just clicking the appropriate links. C'mon -- there's plenty of time to sign up and join this life-changing challenge!

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