Female body language is not all that different from male body language, however there are a few noticeable differences in female body language that both sexes can make note of. Here is a video of my segment with AM Northwest on female body language as well as detailed tips below!
1. Female Flirting Behavior
Men and women have completely different courtship behaviors. Here are some of the behaviors that women do (consciously and subconsciously) while trying to entice a man:
- Like Marilyn Monroe, women who are trying to entice a man tend to raise their eyebrows and lower their lids because it looks similar to the face women make when they are experiencing pleasure.
2. Assertiveness vs Submissiveness
- Women struggle with trying to stand their ground while not intimidating men. From a body language perspective this happens in a number of ways. Women use cues of "submissiveness" to show vulnerability, but also can employ certain moves for assertiveness to show they are not pushovers.
3. Women and Lying
Men and women lie differently. Their motivations for deception are different:
- Men lie to appear more powerful, interesting, and successful. They lie about themselves eight times more than they lie about others.
4. Women and Body Language Cues
Women are better at sending and picking up body language cues than men. Here's how:
- Researcher Monika Moore found men often miss a women's first eye-gazing courtship signal. On average women need to eye-gaze three times before a man takes notice.
5. Tips for Men and Women:
Taking into account some of the female body language cues, here are some tips for both men and women:
- When approaching a woman, men should never come up to a woman from behind, as this will put her on guard. They are better off coming in at an angle and then standing at an angle.
6. Likeable Female Body Language:
What do people consider "likeable" body language? Here are some of the behaviors that are attractive and likeable in both social, business and romantic situations:
- Having an expressive face.
- Keeping your hands below chin level (above can be seen as aggressive or over-animated).
- Minimal arm crossing.
- Keeping hands outside of pockets.
- Triple head nods to show interest.
- Intimate eye gazing (from the eyes to the mouth to the body).
- Leaning towards the other person.
- Subtle mirroring.
Overall, women tend to be more aware of their body language and others body language cues. A post on male body language is coming up!
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