Find Out: What Type of Man You Were Meant to Love!

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Have you ever said to a friend, "He's such a great guy! He has lots of the qualities I love about my father. I'm sure he'd make a great partner, but he just doesn't excite me." Or, "On paper, he's the perfect man in so many ways. But I just don't feel real passion for him!"

There is often a difference between being attracted to someone because you realize and appreciate - all their fine qualities versus, feeling a deep love and passion for them.

Why is that?

Your horoscope may provide you with the answers you're looking for. I know...I know! You're thinking, "My horoscope! Puleeeeeeeeeeze!" Yet, the reality for many women is that they can't seem to find a man (or woman) who has both the basic (practical) qualities that are needed for a successful relationship, plus those qualities that arouse them on a more profound level. To those women I say: Why settle? You deserve a relationship that satisfies you in ways that are unique to your needs. For those who are open-minded, it's time to look elsewhere (i.e. your horoscope) to learn what type of man (or woman) would truly attract you as a mate.

The planets in your birth chart can tell you a great deal about who will be attractive to you in a traditional sense, as well as inspire your love and passion. Here are the planets that affect your attraction to another person.

In a woman's horoscope, her Sun Sign is the best indicator of the type of man she sees, in a "traditional" sense, as her life partner and the potential father of her children; and as fitting a masculine image she can identify with as right for her. The Mars Sign in her horoscope indicates the kind of man she desires and feel great sexual passion.

Of course, it's a wonderful if two people have compatible Sun and Moon sign connections. But as a woman, if you want to know the kind of man who would inspire your love and excite you, find out what sign in your horoscope - your SUN and MARS are in. (Note: At the end of this article, you can learn how to find which sign your Sun and Mars are in your horoscope.)

For Women - Here Are the 12 Signs Your Sun & Mars May Be In

After you learn the sign your Sun & Mars are in, look at the description below to learn about the qualities of a man you will be attracted to as a romantic partner, and the type you're most suited to have an intimate relationship of love and passion.

If Your Sun or Mars are in Aries - You are turned on by a man who is brash, bold and direct. He has high energy and is likely to be impulsive and impatient (like you). He's attractive because he's a doer and enjoys adventure. You are drawn to a strong or athletic "macho" type. Because you are aggressive, you like a man who loves competition, challenges and even enjoys a good fight now and then. Make up sex works well for you!

If Your Sun or Mars are in Taurus - You're attracted to a strong-willed, yet sensual man who is very down-to-earth, enjoys the finer pleasures and comforts of life. He has an appreciation for fine food and music. You're drawn to his scent or may find that his voice arouses you. Because you're strong-willed and pursue sensual pleasure, you like to be dominated by a strong, lusty man who has the patience and appetite for prolonged foreplay that will satisfy your appetites.

If Your Sun or Mars are in Gemini - Because communication is important to you - you're drawn to a man who is bright, witty and a great conversationalist. He's a bit of a "smooth-talker" who entertains you and keeps you guessing. It's the way he stimulates you intellectually and arouses your curiosity that sparks your romantic interest in him. His mind is what sexually arouses you - not his physical attractiveness. Since you enjoy your freedom, you're often attracted to more than one man. Juggling two relationships can be fun and exciting.

If Your Sun or Mars are in Cancer - You're attracted to a sensitive and understanding man who makes you feel emotionally and financially safe and secure. You are drawn to a man who you (unconsciously) perceive as a father figure or consciously see as the "father of your children." A man who needs to be "mothered" may also catch your eye. He's especially attractive if he cooks (or likes your cooking) and wants a cozy, comfortable home. Your sexual attraction is strongest when a man is sensitive and makes you feel protected and secure.

If Your Sun or Mars are in Leo - A man who radiates warmth, confidence, and charisma arouses you. He is generous, and not afraid to show his affectionate side. He's especially attractive, if he's a creative type (actor, artist, musician) or a leader in some way. There is a sense of drama about him that you like. Since you are a princess, you expect him to court you like a romantic prince should. You like a man who admires and praises you (and God forbid: never criticizes you). If he shows you this royal treatment he can have his way with you.

If Your Sun or Mars are in Virgo - You're attracted to a practical, reliable, down-to-earth man who is intelligent and well mannered, especially one who is neat and clean. When you meet a man, you'll probably check out his dress, shoes (and whether his fingernails are clean). Since you're into perfection, you are drawn to men you can "fix" and make even more perfect. You expect a man to avoid being crude in public, preferring that he wait until you are behind closed doors to show you his lusty, earth side.

If Your Sun or Mars are in Libra - You're attracted to a charming, polite and classy man who is well spoken, even a smooth-talker, especially if he's good-looking and well dressed. He enjoys socializing, and appreciates culture and the arts; and not turn you off by being crude or making a scene. You are sexually aroused by romantic gestures (flowers) or beauty (a man with a great physique), anything that appeals to your senses. It's what puts you in the mood for love and romance.

If Your Sun or Mars are in Scorpio - You're magnetically attracted to a man who (like you) seems secretive, intense and smolders with passion and sexuality, especially if he seems powerful or dangerous. Because you are strong-willed, possessive (and controlling), you like these same qualities in a man. You are emotionally excited by a romantic connection with someone you can engage in a psychological power struggle for control that may lead to a profound sexual connection.

If Your Sun or Mars are in Sagittarius - You're attracted to a man with morals and high ideals who operates his life with honesty and integrity - and even more so, if he can be a teacher or spiritual guide. You enjoy his great sense of humor. You want honesty, friendship, and fun in a relationship. You yearn to share adventures or sports or philosophical discussions together, especially if you can "be buddies." Because you're attracted to men of different cultures, a foreign man can be a sexual turn-on for you.

If Your Sun or Mars are in Capricorn - You're attracted to an ambitious man (who may be much older or younger) who is socially acceptable. Because you're a "show-me-the-money" girl, you're drawn to wealth, status and power and would likely choose an established career man over a penniless guy with good looks but poor prospects. You "play for keeps," and are only interested in serious romantic partners who you can see a future. While you may be slow to show your affections, once you commit, behind closed doors, you show your lusty side.

If Your Sun or Mars are in Aquarius - You're attracted to a man who is intellectually interesting, opened minded and willing to experiment, yet able to be your friend. He is exciting because he seems so unconventional and even unpredictable. You're intrigued with him because he is an idealist and rebel, likely to have views that would shock your parents or friends. Because you are original and at times unpredictable, you have no interest in boring men who seem rigid. He's sexually exciting because he's willing to experiment with new and different ways.

If Your Sun or Mars are in Pisces - You're attracted to a man who is both romantic and sensitive, often a dreamer. If he appears a bit lost and confused, you find that intriguing. This can result in your being attracted to a man who needs to be saved or one you hope will be your savior. As a hopeless romantic, you dream of a romantic "knight in shining armor," who comes into your life and sweeps you off your feet. Behind closed doors you are sensuous and bewitching ready to satisfy his fantasies.

If you're interested in a happy, long-lasting relationship, your horoscope can help you understand the type of person who attracts you in a traditional sense, as well as inspires your love and passion.

To learn what sign your SUN and MARS are in, use the Free Transit Calculator and enter your birth date. It will compute your personal transits for 2016 and the planets in your birth chart. Then, make sure to scroll down to the end of the page, where you'll see your planets and the signs they're in. Then, match them up with the description in this article.

And, if you're curious to learn more about your personal Horoscope and what it says about your love relationships, and marriage prospects, as well as career, investments and health in 2016: Order your customized Report: Your Horoscope & Future in 2016.

If you're already in love and want to find out if you're really compatible for marriage (or partnership) with another person, go to the FREE Love Compatibility Calculator and enter your birth date and theirs. And, if you want a customized report on your compatibility together, order Your Love Compatibility Report.

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