Finding Your Authentic 'Sales Goddess' Higher Self (Insight and a Quiz!)

Throughout the history of sales training, many different processes have been taught and utilized. A variety of authorities have created unique frameworks to capture all of the essential skills that a salesperson should possess. While many professions have a set list of standard competencies, sales is not standardized. This lack of standardization is exactly what made the gurus' methods so essential. The sales methodology creators have taught from a place of experience, using what worked best in their respective time and industry. Though each iteration contained subtle differences, they traditionally shared a masculine viewpoint. Unfortunately, they were male writers that generally wrote for male salespeople. They didn't take into account the unique strengths of women, or the inhibitions that women may feel.

When I started to talk about my sales coaching platform, women tended to ask day-in-the-life and authenticity questions, such as "What do I say when I enter a room?" or "How do I promote myself without sounding like a phony?"

We want authenticity! We want substance! We build our expertise by seeking the affirmations of other women along the way. However, without a standardized framework and formula for the role, or a pool of female mentors to learn from, we tend to shy away from establishing our own sales identity.


Who Are You?

Women have unique strengths that, when tapped into, have a powerful impact in selling, such as compassion, collaboration, and empathy. The vast majority of sales and leadership training has been geared toward helping women succeed by following male success techniques. We have spent years being indoctrinated into believing that fitting into a male mold is the path to success, and have therefore learned how to fit in. Research indicates that finding your unique voice and authentic self is the best path to success. Finding your true self, however, is not as easy as it seems.


What is Your Role?

Women have so many roles that we play. I am a mother, a wife, a teacher, a manager, a colleague, a team player, a friend, a writer, and of course a dreamer. Your true self remains part of each role that you play. Unfortunately, it is sometimes hard to connect with your natural identity, and I did not authentically do so until I hit my late thirties. I always felt like a chameleon, and that served me very well in a sales role. However, it always caused confusion for me in identifying where I truly existed in that picture. When I was dating in between marriages, I really felt this conflict. Having no idea what dating in my adulthood was like and really no idea of what I was looking for in a partner, I would date all types in an effort to spark some real preferences. Abraham-Hicks said that you might not know that you want a house with closets unless you have had a house without closets. Finding out that I did not mesh well with certain types of people helped me to define who I did mesh well with. Who I did mesh well with were the types that let me be me--my authentic self, a messy and intense person who loves her closet space.

Your Authentic Self

There are many great thinkers and philosophers who have helped to bring the idea of archetypes into universal consciousness. One that is best known for this is Carl Jung. Jung believed that every story, every personality, and every character that has ever existed has assumed a role that is borrowed or worn, like an article of clothing, and then returned to the wheel of time. Kabbalah believes that each time we assume a role, or master a sephira, we evolve in a continual state of enlightenment, reincarnating through each lesson and mastering each character life by life. I've given a great deal of thought to this philosophy, and I ponder what my wise friend once taught me--that any belief we hold is simply a story that we tell ourselves. I have challenged myself in the stories that I believe which each progressive step that I have taken throughout my career. It was my idea to become a Director of Sales years before I actually believed that I could. My belief (or my story) changed exactly one day before I negotiated and won this title. Once you believe in your story, there is a ready pool of energy that immediately fills in the blanks. You can wear this new dress the moment you ready yourself for the role. How do you choose which one is you? How do you know which character is most authentically suited to you? That is where you can take the great Carl Jung's advice and find your archetype.


Greek goddesses and gods provide an excellent representation of the various aspects of humanity. I have read about many of them and have found great respect for certain goddesses in particular (Athena the Wise and Demeter the Primordial Mother), but the one god that I most closely align with in my sales profession is not female--it is Hermes. Hermes is the god of communication; he was the great connector of the underworld and the world of the gods.

Which Sales Goddess are You?


Rena Cohen-First has sold in the Food Ingredient Industry for the past 17 years, selling to the largest food and beverage manufacturers in the world. She has taught online business and leadership classes as an adjunct instructor, studied Professional and Executive Coaching, completed her MBA and Served in the US Army. She resides in San Diego with her two children and husband. Her goal is to show every woman that she can become a Sales Goddess in all circumstances. See more about Rena at:

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