How to Get Exactly What You Desire Without Changing a Thing

Every single moment we're presented with an opportunity to choose what we want. We have the power to create the life we desire, without having to change a single thing in ourselves, relationships or environment. It's really pretty amazing!
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I'm going to let you in on a little secret when it comes to fulfilling your dreams and desires... At any moment, you have the power to fully embody and become the person that you want to become.

Even if your job is terrible, your husband doesn't make the effort anymore, or you're 20 pounds over where you'd like to be. You can be sexy, joyful, passionate, playful, successful, abundant and expressive. You just have to make the choice. It's that easy.

Now, before you get mad and tell me it's not really that easy, please understand that I know how you feel. The simplest shifts are usually the most difficult to actually implement in your life. I know this, because it's something I'm working on right now in areas of my life! But that's the beauty of it: It's simple, and all it takes is some practice.

Every single moment we're presented with an opportunity to choose what we want. We have the power to create the life we desire, without having to change a single thing in ourselves, relationships or environment. It's really pretty amazing!

So how do you create what you desire in your life? I have three simple steps...


How to feel exactly what you want to feel, right now.

1) Ask yourself, what do I want to feel in this moment?

A fabulous mentor of mine introduced me to this question. "What do I want to feel in this moment?" This simple question is the key to unlocking everything you want to experience in this life, and the key to making it happen right now. So ask yourself, what do you want to feel? When you think about what you want or need, what is the desired feeling that thing, person, or experience would bring you? Security? Love? Connection? Abundance? Whatever the answer, it's perfect. Whether you want to feel sexy or expressive, powerful or abundant, joyful or peaceful... it's perfect. Roll with it.

2) Brainstorm ways to feel what you want to feel, right now.

In her book The Desire Map, Danielle LaPorte talks a lot about desire. When she desired to feel abundant and successful, she'd take herself to a fancy store and sit on the fancy couch she wanted to own. That made her feel abundant, without her actually having to be anywhere other than where she was in that moment. What can you do to create this feeling, without having to change anything at all?

If you want to feel sexy, you might curl your hair, throw on some red lipstick and wear your favorite heels around the house while you cook dinner for one. If you want to feel joyful, you might watch some funny home videos, play with your neighbor's dog or write a gratitude list. If you want to feel successful, you might make a list of your recent wins, read through old journals to see how far you've come, or pretend you're being interviewed on that talk show you're obsessed with.

3) Remember: Like attracts like.

If you want to experience more of something in your life, start by creating more of those feelings for yourself, every single day. Like attracts like. If you're vibrating at the frequency of what you want to attract (the awesome man, the new job, the energized body), you'll bring it into your life far quicker than if you sit around and pout about not being where you want to be.

It can be far too easy to lose something you really want, simply because you're not a vibrational match for it. If the awesome, loving guy walks into your life, but you're not open and filled with love and connection on your own already, he's not likely to stick around very long. If the great job opportunity lands in your lap, but you're vibrating at a negative, "I hate my job and my life" level, you're not likely to get the job offer. In order to receive and keep what you want, you have to be a match.

Ask yourself what you deeply desire and how you can elevate yourself to that vibrational level every single day using the steps above.

Take action now!

What do you want to feel and create in your life? What do you desire? Choose one thing and work through the questions above.

Leave me a comment below sharing one thing you're going to do right now to start feeling what you want to feel.

Stephenie Zamora is the founder of, a full-service, life-purpose development, design and branding boutique. Here she merges the worlds of personal development and branding to help young women build passion-based businesses. Click here to download her free guide, "The Unexpected Trick to Transforming Your Life With ONE Single Question."

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