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Going the Extra Mile

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Do you go the extra mile? Sometimes it's described as doing more than the minimum required. I know I do. For me, it's about doing almost whatever it takes to achieve the most favourable outcomes. In order to do that, sometimes I need to break the rules. As Gandhi said, "Learn the rules well, so you know how to break them effectively." I tend to go along with that. In fact, as a coach I've been known to break the rules on a number of occasions. In many corporate businesses, although an unwritten rule, coaches are not expected to contact the coachee after the assignment has been completed. On a few occasions I've contacted the coachee after the coaching sessions have come to an end.

I've done this when I strongly feel something is missing, or that not everything has been said. So often, particularly in the corporate arena, people are less inclined to speak freely, particularly if the coaching takes place in their business environment. Therefore, going out for lunch or coffee enables a less formal atmosphere to be in place. That's when I often discover what have been hidden truths, or an aspect of their life that get's in the way of their professional life. It's as if the coachee doesn't connect their personal life to their business life. This is where what I describe as the Jekyll and Hyde syndrome kicking in.

Only when there is a congruency between who we are in business, and who we are in our personal life, can there be authentic harmony. I know this to be true first hand. Up until 1994 I owned the MALCOLM LEVENE retail fashion business in London's West End. My business was very successful. I made an excellent living. But something was missing -- I wasn't happy. In essence, the person I wasn't going the extra mile for was me. That's because there was an incongruence between my work life and my personal life. At business I was fast and furious, at home I was a pussy cat. Those descriptions are a tad extreme, but you get my drift. In short, my business face was often Mr. Hyde, while at home I was more Doctor Jekyll.

Because of this big difference, my identity was blurry. Then, after some years of searching I captured my Doctor Jekyll. But how to relate Jekyll to what I was doing? I couldn't, so something had to change; my career. It wasn't exactly a swift move. But eventually I managed it. These days being a Personal Branding expert, enables me to be more of me, more of the time. I'm not entirely authentic, but become closer as I continue to learn how to. Yes, going the extra mile helps me to be more of myself. In addition, the coachee discovers how to be an improved version of who they are.

Some thoughts:

- Know we can be happy at what we do in business.

- Remain focused on what you want more of.

- Learn how to be disciplined in matters that improve your life.

- Go the extra mile, it's the quietest part of the road.

- Important, discovering who you really are is one of the most important aspects of living.

- Remember, you can break the rules, if you know how to effectively.

- Go the extra mile for you.