You CAN Have Your Cake And Eat It Too! Go Ahead -- Reinvent Your Life -- Just How You Want it!

Since it's my birthday week, it's quite fitting to share this post ... as I will be having my cake and eating it too!!
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Since it's my birthday week, it's quite fitting to share this post ... as I will be having my cake and eating it too!!

"You CAN have your cake and eat it too!" We've all heard that expression throughout our lives and many have come to accept it. But have you ever thought about what it really means, and why CAN'T you have your cake and eat it too?

Think about it -- the expression implies that you can have your cake -- but what? You're supposed to just stare at it and NOT eat it?

When it comes to Life Reinvention -- I'm a firm believer that you MUST have your cake, and you MUST eat it too!!

You are entitled to have what you want in life -- you have the power and your responsibility is to use it, own it and grab life by the horns and make it what you want.

No wonder so many people are lost and stuck in a life that they don't want to be living. They've been brought up believing that they are not to indulge in the things in life that make them happy and that you can only have "so much" but not the whole enchilada!

That's absurd! Why on earth can you not do what you love, be with who you want to be, create the hobbies and interests that you want to cultivate, build the life that is your optimal existence. If you're not hurting others, and what you want is not at someone else's expense, you deserve to pursue all that makes you happy.

Are you afraid to go after it? Do you think you may not succeed? You won't be able to attain it? Is the risk not worth the reward?

You need to prioritize yourself and begin to create the framework for what you want. These can be small reinventions -- baby steps towards the bigger goal. But start setting your sights on what you want from your life and be clear about how to get there. I often talk about creating that roadmap -- without it you just won't get there or be able to chip away at the obstacles with clarity if you can't define the path for yourself.

You want to have your cake AND eat it too? Then go for it!

Here's what I do to stay the course, after I've identified something that I want to embrace (or tackle) as a new part of "project me"... Every night I go to bed, thinking about the few major things I want to accomplish the next day (or on Sundays, for the next week -- in which case I write it down). Sometimes they are personal goals, some are business goals and tactical plans ... Some are family plans and projects ... I'm not a "type A" person, or so I'd like to think, but I find it keeps my head organized and clutter free, and it helps me get through the things I want.

We all juggle a lot and keeping all the plates in the air is a fine skill -- fun if you really master the art -- a daily challenge -- but fun, nonetheless! Weekends are for the loftier goals but squeezing in some of the soft and precious stuff into the middle of a work week is good for the soul. Sit back in the middle of a busy day -- close your eyes -- take a deep breath and clear your mind. Allow yourself that focus and clarity to indulge and get back to "you".

When was the last time you stopped and put yourself at the front of the line? You're entitled...

Yes, you're entitled to have your cake and go ahead ... EAT IT TOO!!!

And to quote the amazing new campaign by CADILLAC -- #DareGreatly

Our Greatest glory is not in never falling, but in getting up every time we do

-- Confucius


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