It's amazing how often people flinch when I explain I am a divorce coach/consultant. Some even respond as if I am saying, "Hi, I'm an undertaker."
That observation was underscored when, upon being introduced to someone at a networking event, I said, "I understand you are a divorce attorney." He winced and quietly replied, "We don't use the "D" word. We call ourselves family law attorneys."
Why is "divorce" such a loaded word? True, it's devastating and claims roughly half of all marriages. However, I assure you it is not fatal or contagious. The afflicted among us promise we will not pass it along. So, the next time you find yourself with someone caught in its trauma give him/her a much needed hug.
Think how you'd respond if s/he was newly widowed and show the same compassion.
Knowing how to help someone in crisis is often difficult. With that in mind, I'm sharing some tips below to help you comfort someone touched by the challenges. Of course, you can always send chocolates...
- Listen, and then listen, and listen again. It is the greatest gift you can give. Just as when a partner is lost to death, there is the need to tell and retell the story. To make wise decisions your friend needs to do this. It is the first step to recovery and an important way for your friend to separate the emotional pieces from the legal and business aspects of dissolving a marriage.
This article first appeared on DivorceSaloon.com