It sounds like a tough time to be in high school. Teen suicides are on the rise, kids are getting attacked in school bathrooms, and lock downs are realities. On the social front, everyone is subject to participating or peeking in on every single thing classmates are or aren't doing - because it's all being shared on social media.
Is the innocence of high school drifting away, or have things always been this bad?
Now in my mid-forties, I am quick to blame it on the societal dilemmas of this decade, but I'm not sure that's fair - or right. Still, in my mind, the innocence my friends and I experienced being high school students in the eighties sparks nostalgia for better/simple/easier times gone by.
As I watch my son's freshman year sail through spring, I am dying to pull off his headphones, get his attention and scream "Here's what I miss about high school! Appreciate every day!" But I don't, because I don't think he'd take me seriously or relate to the things of those Gen X days-gone-by.
Here are five things I miss most about high school:
- Notes between classes - secrets and feelings being shared in a thoughtful way - having to think, then write, then fold, hold and have the courage to hand off. SO much more strategic than a quick text or type on social media, where sharing requires little strategic thinking.
- The idea when you wake up that, every day, anything can happen (and that being a good thing)! As an adult, weekdays can seem like the movie "Groundhog Day." Speaking of Bill Murray, I miss him, too...
- Always looking for - and finding - a party, just by driving through parks and hanging out in parking lots. Every single weekend. Saturday nights filled with surprises and sudden invites, all without being connected to smart phones!
- Anxiously waiting by - and making mad dashes for - the ringing landline. And not knowing who it is until you hear their voice.
- Hanging out at Dairy Queen to talk with friends - in person, for hours on end - not via Snapchat, for a few seconds.
And, perhaps these five timeless things that are just there when you're young, not necessarily from the eighties, but because we may have taken them for granted back then:
o Friends who really know you.
o The ability to fall in and out of love daily/weekly/monthly/yearly.
o Not having to think about what's for dinner.
o Having energy without coffee.
o Having that one U2 song that could sum up your entire year.