It seems as though every teenager in today's age is always looking for love. As a senior in a public high school, and as a person that has spent almost 12 years of my life in the public school system, I can confidently make that statement. Not everyone is looking, but 99 percent of kids are.
It has always made me wonder, "Why is everyone in need of a boyfriend/girlfriend?" and "Why can't more people just be happy without having to have someone else?" The second one especially, because I have never seen a faithful relationship in high school last more than a year.
Young relationships always are so great in the beginning, but it always seems to end up with a lot of fighting and bickering. Why spend all of that time fighting with someone, when you can be productive doing something and being happy? It befuddles me, and I see it time and time again.
However, because we are young we are always going to be on the look-out for someone of the opposite sex that makes us happy. Someone that can make us laugh and smile, and someone that we can make memories with. It shouldn't have to end with fighting and bickering, so here are some helpful tips for making a successful relationship.
First, it is key to find someone whose maturity is on the same level as yours. If you are a quiet and shy person it probably isn't going to work out dating the loud, class clown. The same goes for someone who likes to think about their future. If the only thing you care about is what you're going to be doing on Friday night, dating someone who is worried about their life past high school just isn't going to work.
Second, you have to have someone whose interests are the same as yours. This basically goes without saying, but I have seen many times where people do not follow this one. If you're a girl who plays in the orchestra and is in the drama club, dating the quarterback and star pitcher on the baseball team probably isn't going to mesh real well.
As we are maturing and beginning to become more round people, we think that we can overlook the interests that don't line up, and focus on the ones that do. But, you're still a teenager and you have the amount of wisdom of a teenager. Don't set yourself up for failure.
Third, do not let your relationship play out on social media. We live in a society where there is Facebook, Twitter and Instagram, among many others. Posting pictures and statues every now and then is okay, but constantly bombarding your followers and friends with your relationship isn't going to make them happy, and can easily lead to an argument with your boyfriend/girlfriend or possibly a breakup. Keep social media out of your relationship.
Fourth, you each need to learn how to compromise. This isn't a quality that comes easy with being young. We want what we want for the reasons that we want it, and normally if we don't get it, we aren't going to be too happy. Not having compromise normally leads to arguments, and at our age, arguments lead to breakups. Find some middle ground and be happy that your significant other is happy.
Fifth, you need to learn to pick and choose your battles. All the time, things happen in life that will frustrate and upset us, but sometimes you really have to stop and think if it's really worth getting upset about or making a big deal over. You need to think before you act. If you don't, you'll normally find yourself beating yourself up because you wish you would have thought before you acted. Keep calm and think everything through.
Sixth, do not let temptation get to you. There is an old adage that goes, "Once a cheater, always a cheater." It hasn't let me down yet. Don't cheat on someone, period. If you do, you will end up with a bad rap, and no one else with any self-respect will want to date you. If you believe you will ever be tempted to cheat, just stay away from relationships.
These are just some of the thing you must do in order to have a healthy high school relationship. Young relationships are always fun when you're young, but they are often building the foundation of your abilities to handle situations later in life, especially when you're ready to settle down and find a spouse. Learn while you're young, so you're not questioning yourself 20 years down the road as to why no relationship of yours works out.