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13 Honest Confessions From People Married To Narcissists

"Being married to a narcissist is like going swimming in a swamp: You are bound to get dirty and eaten alive."

All marriages come with their share of challenges, but being married to a narcissist is a whole different beast.

Keep in mind that not everyone who's vain or self-absorbed necessarily has the disorder. Narcissism exists on a spectrum, according to Dr. Craig Malkin, an instructor of psychology at Harvard University and the author of Rethinking Narcissism: The Bad — and Surprising Good — About Feeling Special. Here are some signs to look out for.

Below, 13 people open up about what it's like to be married to a narcissist -- or someone possessing narcissistic traits -- on Whisper, an app that lets users share their deepest thoughts anonymously.

I
I married a narcissist and feel like this marriage is a lie. He
Being married to a narcissist is like going swimming in a swamp: you are
bound to get dirty and eaten alive
I don
I
My husband is a narcissist and only thinks about himself and his wants.
We
My husband has a narcissistic personality. He is one of the coldest people
I know. I would leave him but I still love him, and I don
I love my husband but I hate his narcissistic personality. It makes it hard
to live, be happy, and do something for me without being made to feel
shitty or picked on at night.
Been married almost 10 years to a narcissist who chases other women
nonstop. I just want a normal relationship.
I have recently separated from my narcissistic emotionally abusive husband.
13 years of head games took me to my lowest point, but now I feel so free &
my soul is healing.
I married a narcissist and now we
I pretend to play nice with my narcissistic husband, but I
My husband is a manipulative narcissist and I love him. Being a lot smarter
than him makes it tolerable.
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