As the saying goes, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Granted, we all know that the most attractive and sexy women typically get the most attention from men. But are those really the women that men end up marrying? As a Professional Austin Matchmaker and Dating Coach, surprisingly, I have successfully created many happy couples who are not the same number on a looks scale of 1 to 10. There are also many examples of mismatched couples in Hollywood based upon looks. I probably shouldn't name names but Hugh Jackman, Rob Lowe and Pierce Brosnan come to mind. It is also interesting to note that many of the less attractive spouses are makeup artists and women in the media. As Sherlock Holmes would say, "its elementary, my dear". It all comes down to satisfying the male ego, like it or not.
Women that have been constantly fawned over their whole life in general may not understand what most men truly want. Could it be that less attractive women are less demanding and more easily satisfied? Or is it that they have had to develop their personality? Whether you are Carrie, Samantha, Miranda or Charlotte, here are the top 5 reasons good looking men may choose to marry more ordinary looking woman as observed by an Austin Matchmaker and dating coach:
1. They Provide Security
A very attractive man knows from first-hand experience just how meaningless good looks are and just how much they attract all the wrong sort of people. If he's that hot, you can take it as a given that he has attracted and dated beautiful women who turned out to be spoiled and superficial, obsessed only with looks and status. And, underneath that, he has to be pretty insecure about whether anyone could love him for himself if he weren't so damned good looking.
2. They Are Lower Maintenance
She isn't the needy, nagging chick. She doesn't bother him when he's out with the guys or unable to give her his attention. She knows how to give him space, because she feels lucky that a man like him would choose a women like her rather than her better looking rivals.
3. She puts him first:
Just as women like to be pampered, men like it too. Massages, gifts, compliments, affection...it's all love! But not every woman does these things for their man. The more average looking woman may have mastered this and it has him hooked!
4. The Sex is Better
Beautiful women never have to work hard for sex. Men are always so happy to be with them that they do all the work. A less attractive woman whose breasts aren't perfect or maybe has cellulite, has learned all kinds of tricks between the sheets to keep her sex life active and focused on meeting the man's sexual desires.
5. She is nicer
Great looking people in general, get used to attention and so never seem to feel the need to develop their personalities much. Personality counts a lot. Great looking people tend to rely on looks more than personality whereas not so beautiful people tend to be nicer and more amiable because they have had to in order to attract the opposite sex.
So is there such a thing as "wife material"? Well, yes, according to John Molloy, author of Why Men Marry Some Women And Not Others. Molloy claims there are definite types of women that men marry -- and, equally definitely, women they do not. Molloy interviewed more than 3,500 people in his quest to discover exactly why men pop the question to some of us and not others. When he asked men who were about to be married to describe their fiancées, only 20 per cent said 'gorgeous' or 'sexy'. The others focused on their future wives' personalities.
One man summed up his future bride as 'the kind of woman you can take anywhere and be proud of' -- a sentiment echoed by many other men in the course of Molloy's research. More than 30 per cent of the men Molloy interviewed who were about to get married said their family's positive opinion of their future bride had helped them decide she was 'the one' -- and most parents aren't looking for an incredibly sexy or a very attention-seeking spouse for their son.
There's another good reason why men eschew sexiness in favor of other qualities when they look for a wife. "Men don't look for very sexy wives, because -- at a very basic animal level -- they want to be sure the children they are raising are their own,' explains psychologist Dr Jane McCartney, an expert in human behaviour and relationships. 'Men are attracted to qualities such as loyalty, discretion and kindness when they look for a wife. Feisty and flirty is fine for a girlfriend. It's just not what men want in life partners".
So for all you hotties out there, maybe it is time to tone it down a bit. Those extra 5 lbs, hair extensions, botox injections, spray tans and designer outfits don't really matter at the end of the day for attracting and keeping your dream man. Maybe it is time to focus on your inner beauty. I believe there is nothing better than seeing a woman who exudes beauty from the inside....and with that her outside beauty shines, flaws and all. Which reminds me of a quote from Sophia Loren, a woman who truly had both inner and outer beauty:
"Beauty is how you feel inside, and it reflects in your eyes. It is not something physical"