How often do you feel sad, alone and empty inside? How often do you feel anxious, depressed, hopeless, angry or hurt? These are the feelings we experience when we have abandoned ourselves in some way.
There are many ways of abandoning ourselves. We abandon ourselves when we:
- Do not notice or give comfort to our painful feelings of loneliness, heartbreak, helplessness over others, sorrow or grief
All of these are ways of not showing up and being present to take loving care of ourselves.
Our painful feelings of anxiety, depression, anger, hurt, guilt, shame, aloneness and emptiness are always telling us that we have abandoned ourselves in some way. When we do not comfort ourselves through painful feelings, when we do not open to learning about how we may be causing our pain, and when we do not stand up for ourselves in the face of others' anger, blame, neediness and disrespect, we are abandoning ourselves.
Inner abandonment will always energetically create an empty place within -- a place that wants and needs love. We create that inner vacuum when we refuse to open to Spirit and bring the energy of love to our inner child. We create that inner vacuum when we refuse to be an advocate for ourselves regarding health and wellbeing, and in difficult interactions with others.
Like any vacuum, our inner vacuum will automatically pull energy from others. Our abandoned inner child, desperately needing to feel safe and loved, energetically pulls energy from others, hoping to fill the emptiness and feel safe. Even when we don't overtly pull from others with our behavior, our energy will automatically be pulling on them, because the empty place within needs to get filled to feel safe and loved.
Many relationship issues center around this mutual state of inner abandonment. When each person is abandoning themselves and energetically pulling on each other to get filled, both people will end up feeling abandoned by the other. Other than situations where a person is incapable of taking care of themselves, such as a young child, a very ill person or a very old person, feeling rejected or abandoned by another is always a projection on to the other person of our own self-abandonment.
Until you are devoted to practicing Inner Bonding and becoming a loving adult for your inner child, it is likely that you will continue to feel the aloneness, emptiness and sadness that comes from self-abandonment.
When you are loving yourself, you will feel a deep inner sense of safety, peace and fullness. Nothing other than taking loving care of yourself will ever give you these feelings in any permanent, ongoing way.
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