How Not Drinking Exaggerated My Anxiety

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Not drinking, man. It really messed with my energy flow.

Sometimes I enjoy a nice, cold beer. Other times a martini or a margarita will do. And then there’s a delicious glass of wine.

Ah, it can be wonderful.

And I don’t drink alcohol when I’m sad. I tend to drink it only when I’m in a good mood. Or when the energy is flowing through me so powerfully all day that it feels nice to have a delicious way to unwind.

Now you might be thinking: “But Melissa! Alcohol isn’t good for people who experience anxiety!”

And you’d be right.

But not for the reasons you might think.

This isn’t about medicine interactions.

This is about the flow of energy to me and through me.

It was not drinking water (or enough of it) that exaggerated my experience of anxiety.

Water is so good, right?

Ice cold, and preferably with lemon or lime or cucumber infused.

When I’m drinking enough water, everything flows so much better.

Yes, this seems like common sense, but water is not always the beverage I want to enjoy.

However, when I drink alcohol, I get dehydrated (obviously).

And, the less water in my body, the more anxious I get.

So the thing that made me want to enjoy a couple of drinks is what I produced more of by drinking them.


Anxiety is a call to awareness from your soul.

It’s not foreshadowing something horrific.

It’s a message.

But I couldn’t receive the messages because I was so dehydrated.

I was so concerned about the physical experience of anxiety (because when it creeps up, I am not a fan, and I have to purposefully remember in the moment the tools I know work to draw out the message and use the anxiety to my advantage).

This, in turn, exaggerated the experience of anxiety because I wasn’t working through whatever shift was occurring.

When a message is trying to get through to you, it’s going to ramp up until you finally get it and transform what needs shifting in your life.

That can’t happen all that well when you’re stuck in the cycle of anxiety, rather than being able to transcend it.

By drinking alcohol and getting dehydrated, coupled with not drinking enough water, I was forcing myself to stay on the anxiety hamster wheel (but desperately wanting to get off, like that little guy).

If you experience anxiety and you use alcohol to help yourself not feel it, that’s ultimately a losing game.

The only way to cure anxiety is to use it to your advantage. You may never stop feeling the anxiety energy in your body, but when you pay attention to what it’s trying to tell you, you begin to control it, rather than having it control you.

With love,


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