How Science's Big Bang Theory is Actually Great Self-Help Advice

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I’m certain you’ve heard of the ‘Big Bang Theory’ (or at least watched the TV show), but I’m not certain you understand what it is or how it works. The reason I’m not certain is because I, myself, am not totally comfortable with my own grasp on this complex theory. Despite my lack of confidence, however, I’m continually perplexed and awed by The Big Bang, and how the theory seems to resonate in our every day lives. Let’s arm ourselves with knowledge…

Here’s a very quick, very layman-esque refresher:

What Is The Big Bang Theory?

No one is entirely sure how the universe actually came into existence. Still, it’s widely believed that in the beginning, the universe existed in only the size of a pin head. The universe suddenly began to expand very rapidly, growing by over 1,000 kilometers in under a second. During that one second, matter beat out the existence of anti-matter, changing the makeup of what the universe consisted of. Because this matter was made of different molecular structures and laws, more matter created via combinations of different matter also took on new rules and structures. As the universe expanded, it cooled, and stable structures of matter (protons and neutrons) took hold. Eventually those protons and neutrons came together, to form hydrogen and helium.

The theory revolves around the idea of expansion. That everything in our universe was created within a single second, then multiplied and built upon itself to create bigger matter as it went along. It’s also important to know that an explosion – a bang – didn’t actually occur. You’ll know why this was important later…

The Big Bang Theory and Personal Development:

Now why is this interesting? Because of the parallels it draws in our daily life. Namely, the way that we process the opinions of other people, and how it creates new matter that beats out the old anti-matter.

Say, for example, someone in your office remarks on your new floral print dress. They say they like your new outfit, but they prefer when you wear only solid colors and not prints. Prior to their assessment, you possessed certain thoughts (we’ll call it matter): that you like solid colors, and that you like floral prints as well. After this person shared their opinion (or their matter), you were enlightened to a certain anti-matter: the absense of the thought that you like floral prints, but might not look good in floral prints. The idea that you might not look good in prints didn’t even cross your mind, it didn’t exist! It was anti-matter. This person’s matter (their opinion) now gangs up with your matter (your opinion) and beats out anti-matter (the absence of an opinion or understanding). New matter is also created: a very specific belief that though you like floral prints, you don’t look good in them. It may or may not be true, but because you worry about possibly not looking as good in floral prints, you’re less likely to wear them.

An entire new life rule and future is born ahead of you. This opinion-based knowledge expands, builds new opinions. Now every time you go shopping you avoid floral prints, and your wardrobe choices and preferences continue to evolve. Before you know it, a decade has passed and you can’t even explain why but you’re absolutely certain you should never wear anything but monochrome sweat suits and all black jumpers.

How the Big Bang Theory Can Change Lives:

If all it takes is a single second in which matter (opinion) beats out anti-matter (the absence of an opinion or thought), then we have the power to change our entire lives simply by changing our beliefs.

It only takes a second to say a remark that could spawn new confidence, and that confidence can expand exponentially just as the universe did. For example: when someone tells you that you don’t look attractive, and your self esteem is killed. How about when someone you love says something cutting or unkind? Confidence shot down. Conversely, when you boss praises your work, and you feel ignited with new passion and dedication. It only takes a second, and new things build…

The Big Bang reflects directly on the way we use opinions and personal theories to create new realities in our every day lives.

But this isn’t all bad.

Creating Big Changes With a Bang

If all it takes is a second, or a single remark, to completely change the entire universe, then why aren’t we using this knowledge to our benefit? We have an incredible potential to change the energy and mood of other people simply with what we say and do, why aren’t we creating big bang changes in our lives every day? And if what we say can tumble into beliefs that change lives, why not create more positive beliefs with our own words?

If all it takes is a single second in time…

Or just one positive statement…

Why aren’t we changing the world and ourselves in each and every moment?

Certainly, change takes time…but it doesn’t take that much time. If we’re willing to let one person in the office with a bad attitude ruin our entire day, then why not be empowered to create the exact inverse reaction? Why not be the person kind enough to do a favor without reward? Why not take every opportunity to compliment your friends and team mates and watch that snowball into a larger effect of moral and encouragement? If all it takes is a second to create a change that expands into new matter, new beliefs, new planets, new LIFE…

Then why not take this one second as you read this to pay just one compliment to yourself? That one compliment, that kind word rather than judging yourself, might just change your entire mood and your entire day, and what you accomplish in just a single second…

After all, just like the universe, there may not be a big explosion in the moment. But you never know what it will grow into as time goes on. And time always goes on…and on…and on…

What are you waiting for?

“Everything is energy and that’s all there is to it. Match the frequency of the reality you want and you cannot help but get that reality. It can be no other way. This is not philosophy. This is physics.” – Albert Einstein


There is a quote credited to one Mr. Albert Einstein…believed widely not to have actually been said by Einstein. Still, it resonates, it inspires, and it lives on in internet infamy by enraging some and empowering others. Does it matter who said it? If you believe it, it makes a difference. It makes a subtle shift that might just change the way a person lives their entire lives.

And if you don’t believe it…who cares?

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