You've been working out at the gym consistently for a while now. GOOD WRK Your hard work is paying off, and your confidence is higher than Rick Flare's. You keep noticing a certain someone at the gym, and you want to ask her out on a date. I got you covered!
How To Approach A Woman At The Gym
Appearance/Hygiene
Pretty simple, but yet so difficult. Gyms can be pretty nasty and downright disgusting. People are sweating, grunting, and in some cases spitting. Standout by being well groomed, smelling good, and cleaning up after yourself. No one wants to be approached by the messy, sloppy, dirtbag guy. A haircut never hurt either. But don't be the funky one in the gym. It's a huge turnoff.
Pro Tip: Try applying a little cologne right before you leave home or work, to head to the gym. A little bit can go a long way.
The Gear
Your outfit, whether having drinks after work, or strolling thru SOHO, is one of the easiest ways to stand out. That same rule applies in the gym. Be clean, be neat, and take sometime to invest in some new workout gear Dri-Fit. It can't hurt.
The Soft Intro
Smile. Say Hi. Keep it moving. Be cordial, confident, and about your business. You're there to workout, so make sure that is your main focus. There is nothing wrong with some small talk, but don't linger. Both of you are there to better yourselves, so make your personal development the top priority. In the event that you two cross paths, smile. Say hello, and if the vibe is right, ask her about her workout. Maybe even wish her good luck if she's just coming in. The positive vibes can go a long way.
Pro Tip: Eye Contact when saying hello, or during small talk is a great way to make a subtle impression.
Stick To The Script
Stick to your normal gym routine. Don't try to impress her by doing anything outside of your normal routine, like one legged burpee backflips. Stick to your usual exercises. Don't do any extra grunting or flexing. You'll just make things weird and uncomfortable. You're at the gym consistently, working hard. That's impressive enough.
Pro Tip: If you're nervous, use headphones to put you in your element. They're a great way to keep you focused and help build your confidence.
Don't Be A Creep
Goes without saying, but it needs to be said. DO NOT, UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES BE CREEPY. Don't stare at her or watch her workout. Don't invite yourself to her personal space. DO NOT OFFER TO SPOT HER, unless she asks you for help, or is about to die. Leave her alone. She doesn't need your assistance. She's been going consistently too, she probably knows what she's doing.
Pro Tip: Don't assume that because she's a woman, she doesn't know what she's doing. It's sexist and a sure fire way to get rejected. Instead, try a subtle compliment. A nice smile and a "Good Job" can mean a lot to someone. Positive affirmations are your friend.
The Backdoor Cut
Build slowly, instead of "going for the kill". Keep in mind that the two of you are both regulars at the gym. So there's no rush to seal the deal. If you've been offering honest and appropriate compliments, saying hello every so often, she's probably familiar with you to an extent. So instead of the usual "Can I get your number" approach, offer to treat her to a smoothie.
Pro Tip: Report building is key. People are less inclined to be vulnerable with strangers. The less of a stranger you are, the better.
Shoot Your Shot
You miss out on 100% of the chances that you don't take. Steph Curry didn't become an NBA Champion and the first ever Unanimous MVP in NBA history by simply being on the team, did he? You want something, go after it. Be confident in your approach, and purposeful with your actions.
Pro Tip: Be respectful. Don't interrupt someone's workout with your primitive pickup lines. Instead, wait until they're done. Ask about their workout
Be A Good Sport
If they decline (for whatever reason), don't be mad and make things awkward. There could be a number of reasons why you weren't successful. None of them are any of your business. You have been rejected, now move on with your life. No means NO. Go workout, isn't that why you're here in the first place?
Pro Tip: You will see her again. That's just how life goes sometimes. Don't be a sore loser about being rejected. Continue to smile, and keep it moving. You're there to workout. Get back to doing that.
These are just my suggestions. I'm on record for being in opposition of Gym Hookups. In fact, I think they're inappropriate. At the same time, people find love in many different ways. I hope this helps you find yours.
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