How to Be the Most Memorable Person in the Room

Being memorable is something that you can control. It is about your mindset and attitude and knowing YOU are worth remembering.
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By Vanessa Van Edwards for

The key to success is being memorable. In fact, we want to be remembered wherever we go:

At business meetings, you want your ideas to be remembered.

At networking events, you need your name to be remembered.

At parties, you want your personality to be remembered.

Think about the most charismatic person you know. It's as if they walk into the room and make friends with every person there. So, how do you become that person? By being real, by embracing others and by understanding the science of people, you can be the most memorable person in the room. Here's how:

Step One: Get Pumped

Let's get real. I know you undervalue yourself. We all do it -- women especially. It's time to banish those internal gremlins and drop the baggage. You HAVE something to offer. Here's what I want you to do.

Make a list of the things that make you feel pumped. It can be anything from memories, to stories, to people, to songs, to funny YouTube videos. This is your official pre-event routine. No one can go into an event cold and be their best self -- and that's the only way to be truly memorable.

Next time you are getting ready, use this list as a get-pumped routine. In addition to getting dressed and doing your hair, run down the list you made. What songs get you going? What YouTube videos make you laugh? Which friend can you call to chat with while doing your makeup? This will get you in touch with what you love so other people can fall in love with you!

Step Two: Get Real

Memorable people are always real and authentic. The biggest thing women need to remember is to be true to their feelings. Women have been taught from a young age to "smile and nod" while in conversation in order to be likable. The problem is, fake smiling is not only a sign of weakness, but it is also disingenuous. Instead of plastering a smile on your face, save your pearly whites for when you actually find something agreeable. This will make people appreciate your gorgeous grin.

Step Three: Be Open

Passing quick judgment is not a way to make new friends, something memorable people understand. They are able to be open-minded while still being true to their opinions. Here's how it works. If you move through the world open to other people's ideas, you can be unafraid to hear something new. In this way, you have stimulating conversations, ask deep questions and gain respect.

You don't have to agree with everyone and everything to be memorable, but you must accept new ideas to connect.

Step Four: Show Respect

Memorable people are not only verbally respectful of other people's ideas, they are also nonverbally engaged. You will notice that memorable people dedicate their full attention to the person to whom they are speaking. They put away their phones, they don't break eye contact and they use nonverbal techniques to show respect. You can do this easily by always pointing your feet at the person on the other side of the conversation.

The feet reflect your attitude. When your feet are pointed directly toward another person, this is a sign of genuine interest. If, on the other hand, your feet are pointed away or towards the exit, this means that your mind is elsewhere.

You will notice that when you are fully engaged both verbally and nonverbally, people remember you and want to keep talking to you.

Being memorable is something that you can control. It is about your mindset and attitude and knowing YOU are worth remembering.

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