Have you ever experienced a pattern in your life that repeats itself over and over again? The forms can change but it feels like the same story? Why does that happen? What are you doing or not doing for that pattern to keep emerging in your life? Most importantly, what can you do to break the cycle and get on with your life?
In adults, patterns can change but due to the very nature of how an adult brain functions, it can take some time for us to see a turn around. The adult brain stops growing around 25 years of age. What that means, is that the adult brain is not developing any further. What’s there is there, however, it still has the ability to be altered. Old pathways can be broken down and new ones laid down in their place but those new pathways can take a while to form before a cycle can be altered.
Most people believe that thinking positively and saying affirmations will do the trick. Although they have their place, on their own, they have very little long term impact because they are only a piece of the puzzle. The most important step to breaking a cycle, is to take action but in order to take the correct and required action, it’s necessary to shift perspective. Why do you need to shift your perspective, you might ask? It’s simple. Let me explain.
Your brain has learnt that the pattern you’re in, is serving you and that to change it would be unsafe or even dangerous. Your brain will convince you of this and as a result, you won’t take any steps to correct it, mostly because you’re scared. What this means is that your brain is seeing more downsides than upsides to you actually making the change you desire. Shifting that perspective can help downgrade the emotional reaction inside and then get you into action.
This all sounds quite easy but it can often be incredibly difficult looking for upsides to changing what you’ve been doing. We’re conditioned to believe it will be worse for us, painful for us and that we might even experience loss. Start looking for the upside to you of making a different choice, going in a different direction and seeing another way through. Help your brain see that there is just as much positive to negative that it will experience so you can neutralise the charge inside. Only then, can a cycle start to change. The more you ask these questions, the more you get to have the life you want.
If you’d like help breaking free of some patterns and cycles in your life, contact me at info@gregschreeuwer.com for a complimentary consult and I’ll show you exactly how to do that.