According to David Hawkins, author of Letting Go, The Pathway to Surrender, only 0.04 percent of the population experience unconditional love.
You may feel you have experienced unconditional love for your children, parents or family and friends, but how often is this love also wrapped in fear? You love them so much but we also fear losing them. On some level, even if it is subconscious, the unconditional love in your life can be tainted by fear and loss.
True unconditional love is pure and has no agenda, hidden meaning, judgement, and definitely no fear. It is loving something or someone with a pure heart, and you feel no attachment if they are to leave.
Unconditional love equals oneness so nothing can leave you if you are one with it.
Unconditional love is the only energetic environment that supports and promotes miracles and healing. When we are in a space of unconditional love we are a conduit for these things. We can heal those around us when we are tapped into this space of unconditional love.
It is seeing all things in the eyes of love and dissolving all things that do not align with the energy of unconditional love.
So how do you experience more unconditional love? It all starts with how you are experiencing yourself.
Love yourself
You are love and this is not something that you need to "work on." You can not experience unconditional love if you perceive that you need to work on it. This perception has judgement that you need to be fixed, which will block the love! If you feel yourself having unloving thoughts towards yourself, you can choose to be love and see yourself through the eyes of love. Imagine how you would treat a child going through the same thing. You would feel unconditional support and love for this child and not judge them. Be gentle with yourself and connect back to the love within. You have the power of source energy within you, therefore you have the power to instantly dissolve any fear within you and bring yourself back to a place of pure unconditional love. By loving yourself, you set high standards for your life and only allow loving people and situations to enter your life as you become a variational match for these things.
Have compassion
When you are loving yourself you will experience a deep sense of compassion for the circumstance that you are dealing with. When you experience this with yourself, you will also feel a deep sense of compassion for other people. You will no longer be able to hold so much judgment towards yourself or other people because you have a deep desire to move through any fear and illusion that may persist.
Release judgement
We can have a strong hold on judgement towards ourselves and others. When we are judging other people it ultimately is a mirror of the judgement we feel towards ourselves. We must continue to release the perceptions that are based on fear. We must also let go of the judgement towards our shadows. These are the parts of us that are angry, envious, jealous, spiteful, depressed, anxious or grieving. We must surrender to the charge we have around hating these parts of ourselves because they make us feel a contradicting emotion to the truth that we know we are. When we release judgement, the charge dissolves and we can see the truth that each perceived negative emotion is a vibration of the same positive emotion that we like. Anger and anxiety is very similar to the energy of excitement, happiness is similar to sadness. They are not to be judged as good or bad, just different spectrums of the same energy. When we stop seeing ourselves as separate, as parts of ourselves to love, and parts of ourselves that we hate and "need to work on" we dissolve it all to just one truth of love.
Surrender
The main point of surrender is to let go of the need to know the HOW. This is the point of surrender. There is no tool or technique that will help you, only the agreement to let it go. Our ego will always come and and say "I can't" or "but how," "this is impossible" but all you need to do is say yes and agree to let it go. This intention will loosen the charge on any illusion or fear and you will open to a new state of receiving. Let go of the story, let go of the thought patterns, let go go your past. Allow in the pain, allow in the healing, allow in a new way of being. In the surrender process you must fully immerse yourself in the process and be willing to die for what you believe is on the other side. You must give up the fight to figure it out, to heal yourself or to keep pushing through. Many moments of surrender come when you are at rock bottom, but with commitment to truth you can surrender before the rock bottom by consciously making the deacon to let go of the "I" that tries to rules you and let love lead you.
Forgiveness
Although forgiveness is a vital a part of unconditional love, it is only effective if it is done from a place of love. You must go through the steps of self love, compassion, non-judgement and surrender before you can enter into a pure state of forgiveness. Forgiveness can often hold an underlying perception that you or someone else has done something wrong. If you need to forgive someone you generally have a reason for it, so you must look at the process through the eyes of love and have let go of what you or anyone else has done wrong. It can bring healing if it is not done from love. If you are struggling to be in a place of love than ask for love to show you a new perspective. Believe that you will be able to see things through new eyes and send loving thoughts to yourself and others before you forgive them. You may start with the affirmation: "Even though you have hurt me, I deeply and completely love and accept you." Repeat in your head while visualizing the people involved.
Take responsibility for your thoughts
Dr. Wayne Dyer says that thoughts are a currency to getting what you want. If we are binging on things that produce negative thoughts it becomes like garbage to the world. We are only separating ourselves and the planet from love. We all must be responsible for the amount of fear based thoughts we allow to rule our minds. When we are focused on the negative, we only attract things that match the vibration of that thought. We have been given a gift of currency with our thought abilities. We can use them to buy things that bring us joy or things that bring us misery. When more of us have a higher calibre of positive thoughts which are creating joy, the entire planet can benefit from the unconditional love that this will produce.
Go past your edges
So much love on this planet is fenced in by edges. In most cases these edges are produced by fears. We create boundaries so we don't get hurt but when we do this we only box ourselves into the amount of love we can receive. We control our love by our edges, which is the ultimate repellant of unconditional love. When you can identify your edges, which are your conditions for love you can begin to ask yourself what lies on the other side of your fear? What would happen if you let go of the fear and was able to slowly expand your edges?
Lyn Mac is the creator of Fit Soul Secrets where she teaches spirituality and holistic soul based health and fitness. To stay connected sign up fro FREE weekly tips on living a soulful healthy life HERE. Or Follow on Facebook HERE.