I heard Wayne Dyer say that feeling Good is God. There is no difference between the two words. So why do we deny ourselves to feel good. We deny "good" as much as we deny "God."
Doing things that make us feel good can seem self indulgent and seeking pleasure may feel ego driven. However, these acts are a complete necessity for us to be so connected to source that success and thriving is a natural state of being! The quickest way to go off track is to cut off your source but we do it every day when we deny ourselves what makes us feel good! To feel good and therefore feel more God here are a few of my top tips:
Check in and Listen
How often do you check in with yourself to feel what it is that you want? This is the first and vital step in feeing good! Not only do you have to go within to feel into what you actually want to feel, you have to listen to what it is your higher self is trying to tell you! Often when we check in with ourselves we may not hear a response, so in this instance when you have no clue what you want, drop all thoughts and let your body lead you. What do you feel in your body when you choose a certain direction, is there lightness or heaviness? Listen to what feels good. You will be surprised how quickly you will be able to drop thoughts and be led by a higher force.
Connect
When you spend time connecting to yourself, to God, nature and loved ones, you will find the stillness and peace within to cultivate all that you desire. Connection is like plugging into source. It quietens the ego's fear based thoughts which allows your truth to shine. Your life becomes more heart centered and feeling good (and God) is your natural state of being. Connection can come from stillness, alone time, pleasure time, music, meditation, prayer and worship.
Play
Connect back into your child like nature and make time for "Play." Play time can take form in various ways. It may be the simplicity and creativity of child-like play or it could take on an adult spin. Playtime is for letting loose and doing things that light you up. Play uses your imagination and brings you back to joy. Spend time in play at least once a week if not every day to feel more alive!
Surrender to plans
Plans are the kill joy of adulthood! While they do bring structure to our life and may be necessary to some degree, having a life that is ruled by plans does not always feel good. Living this way is a sure fire way to step out of flow. Allow yourself to surrender to plans and have a few hours or an entire day of no plans. Instead of listening to what your head is telling you to do, listen to what you heart wants. Check in and feel where you would love to go. Once again drop your thoughts and logic and go with the flow. Once you spend time in flow it will get easier. You may feel drawn to turn down a certain street or go into a store which you wouldn't normally go in. Surrendering to plans allows the universe to bring more magic to your life. When I have "flow days" I often get great ideas, run into people who I've been thinking about or experience other magical encounters.
Keep it Simple
The simplest of things can bring the most joy to us. You don't have to wait until you get a dream job, have more money, a great relationship, a fancy car or an expensive wardrobe to feel good. Feeling good can be from the simple joys of life. Connecting and laughing with friends or family, giving a dollar to a homeless person, giving and receiving a hug, playing with your kids or pets, swimming in the ocean... the list is endless. Often the simpler the better.
Be Selfish
This is often the hardest of all things to do. We are conditioned to think that being kind and loving is to put others first. We often give out of obligation and people pleasing rather than checking in to feel if it is in alignment with what we want. To experience more flow in your life and a deeper connection to source you must put yourself first. The age old saying to mothers about "putting on your own oxygen mask first" apply's to all things. You can not be of service when you are not filling yourself up with goodness first. Check in with yourself before you agree to people. Does it feel good to say yes to someone? Sometimes there is compromise in life but it is important that you at least are authentic, honest and transparent with yourself and with others.
Embrace all acts of pleasure without judgement.
Pleasure is a super power and when you are connecting to pleasure you are connecting to a state of joy and ecstasy. It is the part of feeling good that seems self indulgent. Women in particular are so disconnected to this state of being that they can have judgement around it. Pleasure can seem such a foreign concept because many people do not even know how to connect to this state because they have denied it for so long. It is deeply connected to desire therefore it can be perceived as hard to obtain. If you deny yourself pleasure you deny yourself life force!
Pleasure is brought out by all of the above points. It can be found in the act of surrender. Surrender to the mind so that new states of being can be welcomed in. It is deep connection to joy and love and what lights you up.
Lyn Mac is the creator of Fit Soul Secrets where she teaches women holistic health, fitness and spirituality. She is passionate about awakening women to their Queen within and you can find out more on how to do this in her free ebook, QueenMode. Download here.