Here's How To Literally Cut Your Ex Out Of Your Life After Divorce

Here's How To Literally Cut Your Ex Out Of Your Life After Divorce
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If there's ever a time you need a little distraction in your life, it's during the divorce process. That's why we launched our Divorce Care Package series. With each post, we'll show you what things -- books, movies, recipes -- helped others relieve stress in the midst of divorce, in the hopes that a few of their picks will serve you well, too. Want to share what got you through your divorce? Email us at divorce@huffingtonpost.com or tweet @HuffPost Divorce

It was the simple things in life that reminded writer Elaine Ambrose she'd make it through the roughest days of her divorce: good, slightly indulgent food (hey, it's not called comfort food for nothing); close friends and family firmly in her corner; and a really killer Tina Turner song.

Below, Ambrose, who blogs regularly for HuffPost, tells us more about the little things that helped her cope post-split.

The Song
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"One of my favorite songs dates back to 1984 with Tina Turner singing 'Better Be Good to Me.' I played that song a lot during my divorce, and I’ll admit to fantasizing about prancing around, shaking my booty, and snapping a big whip. Yes, that song made me feel like a real badass then."
The Quote
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"I started a Facebook account in 2008, the same year as my divorce, and added a quote from Erma Bombeck: "When I stand before God at the end of my life I would hope that I would have not a single bit of talent left and could say, 'I used everything you gave me.'" Even though I was divorced during midlife, I was determine to find the humor and positive potential in my life. I was thrilled in 2014 when I was chosen to perform a stand-up comedy routine at the Erma Bombeck Writers’ Workshop in Ohio."
The Book
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"My book, Menopause Sucks, was actually released in 2008 right when I was going through the divorce. Fortunately, I had changed my married name back to my maiden name before the release, but the publisher didn’t have time to change my bio on the back cover. (What a bummer.) It still listed me as married, but at least the description didn’t include his name. Even though I’ve happily remarried, I’m not changing my name again."
The Photograph
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"I love my travel photographs, but I have hundreds that include my ex. I probably won’t return to the Abu Simbel Temple in Egypt and I don’t know how to erase parts of the photos, so the cut-and-paste method will need to suffice for now. Here I am with Ramses the Great."
The Movie
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"My adult daughter was instrumental in challenging me to improve my grumpy mood as I wallowed in the drama of divorce. For starters, she took me to see the movie 'Slumdog Millionaire.' My divorce troubles seemed to fade when compared to life in the slums of India. This powerful, colorful, and entertaining movie provided the inspiration I needed to leave my personal pity party and celebrate the opportunities in my new life."
The Diet
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"After my divorce, I established a no-rules, no-fault diet. If I wanted only pie and ice cream for dinner, that’s what I ate. As long as I exercised to burn off extra calories and balanced the fattening meals with salad-only dinners, I enjoyed the freedom to eat whatever and whenever I wanted. And, I only had to clean up after myself! The food freedom was liberating."
The Splurge
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"One of the few joint possessions I requested from the divorce was a time share account, mainly because I had paid for it. I used the points to take my children and their spouses on a New Year’s trip to wine country in Napa Valley, California. The wine was particularly tasty as we all raised our glasses to toast a new year with exciting adventures to come. To be honest, there was a brief moment of grief because I was the odd person at a table full of happy couples, but hey, I survived just fine."
The Hobby
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"As I was going through the divorce process, I started a blog as a hobby and called it 'Midlife Cabernet.' Since then, I’ve become a syndicated blogger and my humorous essays are featured on Huffington Post and several other websites. This year I compiled the blogs into a book and published Midlife Cabernet – Live, Love, and Laughter after Fifty. The book won the 2014 Silver Medal for Humor from the Independent Publisher Book Award Program (IPPY), and Publishers Weekly reviewed it as 'laugh-out-loud funny.' I believe that a good sense of humor is necessary because it’s always better to laugh than to break something or smack someone in the head."

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