School-age children ages 6 through 12 can be highly impacted by divorce. Children of this age group are trying to integrate their parents' separation. This can be only done in relation to their own stage of development. It is most important at this time that you do not speak negatively about your ex-spouse. That can only serve to confront your child's own sense of self and identity. The better you and your ex can get along after divorce, the easier it is for your children to adjust.
You can help minimize the negative effects of divorce on children in this age group by working together, as a team, on the following:
- Ensure a stable and consistent visitation schedule. This gives your child a structure that can create security.