Have you ever met someone who may not be the most physically attractive person, yet there's something innately beautiful about them? You can't put your finger on it, but their soul just seems to light up and radiate outward.
I think people like this believe deep inside that they are loving and beautiful, with no need to try to convince everyone else around them that they are. Their internal qualities shine, and you find yourself in awe of them, naturally attracted by their presence. These people exude inner beauty and appear attractive in unique ways, not by what they're wearing or their hairstyle, but by the energy they give out and the aura that surrounds them.
In other words, when beauty comes as much from within as without, it in turn magnifies their outer beauty. It seems that if you take care of the inside, the outside will take care of itself. There's nothing more beautiful than a person who exudes self-confidence and self-love. They glow with warmth and appreciation for all they have and are, and this gratitude radiates from their soul.
How can you become that person who radiates from the inside out? Positive self-talk, self-forgiveness, self-acceptance and self-love are all powerful tools to help you switch on your inner glow. None of these things cost money -- just some inner work on your own behalf. Let's take a look at how you can use each of these to your advantage.
(1) Positive self-talk
A very powerful way to radiate beauty is to manage your self-talk. If you're drowning in negativity, insecurity, bitterness and self-pity, your outer beauty will soon catch on and your energy and vibe will be dark and unattractive regardless of how picture perfect you may look on the outside.
Try mirror work. It will make you squirm and struggle initially and make you feel awkward but with practice the resistance will fade. Try this: Every morning look at yourself in the mirror, really look at yourself and say, "I love you exactly as you are."
Say positive affirmations every day until they sink in and resonate within every cell of your being. They may sound ridiculous initially, but keep saying them until you absolutely believe them to be true! For example, two affirmations Miranda Kerr loves to use are: "I am a vibrant being of love and light" and "I came here to be me." Maybe you can come up with some of your own that resonate with you. Say them, feel them, believe them, and then watch the shift and miracles occur! Being beautiful means thinking beautiful thoughts.
A person with a head full of negativity and unkind thoughts will not have an innate inner-glow. If you don't deal with your past issues in life, you give them permission to hang around and define you. This will eventually seep through for everyone else to see, regardless of how beautiful you are on the outside. When you allow the wounds of your past to bring you wisdom, courage and strength, and you learn to forgive yourself, and others, you free yourself from fear and anger. There is a lot of positive energy in the act of forgiveness -- and positive energy creates true beauty. Opening yourself to the practice of self-forgiveness will elevate your beauty, mood and energy fast.
Who do you need to forgive? Is it you or someone else?
Beautiful people don't just happen. They have often struggled, made mistakes and come from a place of despair. However, they use these hardships to take themselves into a new light by creating and becoming the person they want to be. Self-acceptance teaches you to remove the doubt that likes to remind you of your mistakes and that you are not beautiful enough, not skinny enough, not good enough. It also allows you to let go of trying to meet society's impossible standards of perfection.
Self-love is true appreciation for oneself regardless of weaknesses. It doesn't just happen -- you have to create it. Love and respect your body by nourishing it with nutritious food, rest and movement. Set boundaries, know when to say no, and only allow others in your life who positively contribute to your personal growth. People who master self-love are mindful and know what they think, feel and want, rather than allowing others to decide for them.
There will always be someone better looking, thinner, richer and smarter -- so stop scrutinizing and comparing yourself to others and embrace who you are, and what you have, flaws and all! It's not wrinkles and grey hair that make us unattractive, it's our thoughts and attitude. If your inner and outer are not operating in harmony and with mutual respect for one another, your outer beauty will appear transparent, fake even, and that is not true beauty!
Looking great on the outside is something we all want and work hard towards, but having priorities and a realness about you, instead of picking up every flaw in the mirror, is a much healthier option.