How to Start Feeling Sexy, Right Now

As women, we spend a lot of time in our heads analyzing everything, especially our bodies. We look in the mirror and wonder when that began to droop or think maybe we should have done crunches instead of eating that éclair. But all of this analyzing and self-criticism does nothing for us, except to make us want to put on a larger sweater and avoid contact with the opposite sex.

So how do you remove this tendency towards self-criticism, and flip our reactions on their heads so that we look in the mirror and say:

WOW! What a sexy thing!

To get to the bottom of this, it's best to return to the source. We've come to understand the concept of "sexy" as what others would consider desirable in us. The media tells us that "sexy" women are paper thin (and waify!), with enormous boobs and a great behind and an ability to wear heels for an inordinate amount of time.

I will tell you right now, this is just silly. And no real man or woman really considers this generic staple of modern society, the "ideal" woman, as truly sexy. Why? Because it isn't real.

What are you saying, Marisa? That real is sexy?

That's exactly what I'm saying.

The sexiest thing about a person is their realness, and physical attraction, at least the kind that will last longer than six hours, has so much more to do with your self-confidence than your bust line.

Accept Yourself

Everybody has a thing they love about themselves. So begin with that something. Sit in front of a mirror and focus on how awesome that part of you is. Once you've done this a couple of times you'll begin to notice other things you like. You may have adorable dimples, great hair, a sparkle in your blue green eyes you didn't notice before.

The power of positive thinking is a choice, if you want to start feeling sexy, you have to accept yourself as you are, and recognize the magic that is in you. Once you accept yourself, when others compliment you (because self-confidence comes with a glow), you'll begin to accept their compliments. When you accept their compliments with brightness, they'll want to compliment you more, making you feel even better about yourself.

It's a slippery slope... upwards.

Intimately yours,